Saturday, January 21, 2017

Prayers to Pray for Your Girl {Day 5}

Prayers to Pray for Your Girl {Day 5}

Day 5: Kindness {Prayers for your Girl}

Jesus, open my girl’s eyes to see opportunities for kindness and choose putting others’ needs and desires above her own.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

“This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am
the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord.” (Jeremiah 9:23–24) (NIV)

 

 

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Lynn

Friday, January 20, 2017

Prayers to Pray for Your Girl {Day 4}

Prayers to Pray for Your Girl {Day 4}

Day 4: Patience {Prayers for your girl}

Lord, train my girl to be patient.

Teach her to wait; not manipulate a situation or person for what she thinks is best.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” (Proverbs 14:29) (NIV)

 

 

 

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Lynn

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Prayers for Your Girl {Day 3}

 

Prayers for Your Girl {Day 3}

Day 3: Peace {Prayers For Your Girl}

Father, teach my girl to go after peace;

looking for prayers to pray instead of words to say.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

“Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it. (Psalm 34:14) (NIV)

 

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Lynn

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Praying for Your Girl {Day 2}

Prayers to Pray for Your Girl {Day 2}

Day 2: Joy {Prayers For Your Girl}

Jesus, empower my girl to look for joy all around her instead of looking around her for what is missing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

“and those the Lord has rescued will return. They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away.” (Isaiah 35:10) (NIV)

 

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Lynn

Monday, January 16, 2017

Praying for Your Girl {Day 1}

 

Day 1 - Prayer for Your Girl
Lord, I know how hard it can be for me to practice love; to love myself at times and love others too.

Please work in my girl’s heart to love who You created her to be and in turn love others. Amen

“And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” (Matt . 22:39) (NIV)

Lynn

Sunday, January 15, 2017

9 Prayers to Pray for Your Girl

9 Prayers to Pray for Your Girl

 

 

 

Today my youngest girl heads back to college while my middle begins her last semester of her senior year of college. All very good reasons to keep the prayers going up!

Please join me over the next 9 days as we focus each day on prayers to pray for our girls!

Lynn

Friday, January 13, 2017

5 Tips for Overcoming Decision Fatigue

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I have a special treat for you today! My friends, Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory, are experts on this thing called being overwhelmed and they are sharing their wisdom with us! I asked them to stop by because I recently read their new book Overwhelmed: How to Quiet the Chaos and Restore Your Sanity. This book has changed my day to day life and I couldn’t keep their secrets a secret! Here’s Kathi and Cheri:

5 Tips for Overcoming Decision Fatigue

What does overwhelmed feel like to you?

 

To me, overwhelmed feels like stupidity.

 

I feel like I should know what is going on, how to fix it, and what my next step should be.

 

But I don’t.

 

I feel like everyone is judging me because surely they know how to make better decisions than me.

 

When it comes to feeling overwhelmed, one definition does not fit all. However, there are signs and patterns we can look for. By identifying overwhelming circumstances, we empower ourselves to prepare for these situations, and when possible, to avoid them altogether.

 

Here are five common reasons we become overwhelmed by the daily decisions we each face.

 

Which of these scenarios sound familiar?

 

Decision Fatigue Trap #1:  I feel like I have no options.

 

An infuriating quote regularly makes the rounds on social media: “The first time you make a mistake, it’s a mistake. The second time, it’s a choice.”

 

Each time it shows up, I yell at the screen, “That’s not necessarily true! The second time, it’s a choice only if I’m aware that it was a mistake and know that other options are available!”

 

Choice requires options.

 

In order to make new decisions, we must know that we have alternatives. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees tons of possibilities. We have to perceive the options for ourselves.

 

Decision-Making Tip #1: When you find yourself sinking beneath overwhelming beliefs like This is the way I’ve always done it or I can’t see any other possibility, remind yourself I can make new decisions and I have options.

 

 

 

Decision Fatigue Trap #2:  Trying to make the right decision is driving me crazy.

 

As a Highly Sensitive Person and recovering perfectionist, I spent my first forty-five years in fear of making mistakes.

 

During my decades of error terror, I tried to think through every possible worst-case scenario for each decision: “Plan A: I could ask her to … But then she might …Which would mean that he would then … And that would lead to them choosing … So unless I want to … Unacceptable. Plan B: I could tell her to …”

 

I would imagine dozens of hypothetical situations, none of which were occurring, but all of which were so absorbing that I experienced emotional reactions as if they were actually happening. Talk about exhausting!

 

In our attempts to make the right decision, we can live so many hypothetical lives that we have neither time nor energy to live our real lives well.

 

Decision-Making Tip #2: You’ll feel far less overwhelmed when you quit demanding the perfect choice and give yourself permission to make a good enough decision.

 

 

 

Decision Fatigue Trap #3:  I know the decision I need to make…but I’m not making it.

 

If stalling were an Olympic sport, I’d be a gold medalist. I have seemingly virtuous reasons for not executing a decision, like the sudden impulse to clean the house. With a toothbrush. Plus plenty of selfish reasons, from “I’m just not feeling it right now” to “I’ll do what I want, the way I want, when I want.”

 

Problem is, procrastination makes us feel like losers. It’s overwhelming and can become downright demoralizing. When we actively avoid obedience, we feel the truth of James 4:7 (NIV) at a heart level: “If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.”

 

Decision-Making Tip #3: When you talk with God about your avoidance, He reveals the deeper issues, which are almost always fear-related. As you pray-cess your fears, God’s love and grace free you to move forward, leaving all your overwhelming guilt behind. Then, you can echo Paul, “Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!” Romans 7:25a (NIV)

 

 

Decision Fatigue Trap #4:  The consequences of a past poor decision overwhelm me.

 

I totaled my husband’s car at the start of spring break. One split-second bad choice cost us a week of vacation and years of car payments. It felt So. Completely. Unfair. I try so hard in so many areas of my life, I did not need this on top of everything else …

 

The problem with pity parties is that nobody brings us gifts. And the entertainment is terrible.

 

Decision-Making Tip #4: Accepting the consequences of a poor past decision is an ongoing balancing act. Some days, you’ll lean toward persecution. Other days, you’ll teeter toward punishment. You’ll feel far less overwhelmed when you’re in the middle ground of accepting responsibility.

 

 

 

Decision Fatigue Trap #5:  I’m coping with life circumstances that involve(d) little-to-no choice.

 

Decision-making takes extra effort in the middle of messy.

 

Research shows that our fluid intelligence—our general ability to think abstractly, reason, identify patterns, solve problems, and discern relationships—drops significantly when we are overwhelmed.[i]

 

Decision-Making Tip #5: When you find yourself struggling with what should be simple choices, reassure yourself of this fact:

 

You’re not feeling overwhelmed because you’re stupid. It’s the other way around: you’re feeling stupid because you’re so overwhelmed.

[i] Sendhil Mullainathan and Eldar Shafir, Scarcity: The New Science of Having Less and How It Defines Our Lives (New York: Times Books, 2013), 47–52.

 

You can escape being overwhelmed!

Kathi and Cheri would like to send a copy of Overwhelmed: Quiet the Chaos & Restore Your Sanity to one of my readers!

To qualify for the drawing, you need to do TWO things:

#1. LEAVE A COMMENT below.

#2. SHARE THIS POST on social media.

That’s it! Once you do both, your name will be entered into the random drawing. Be sure to tell your friends so they can sign up too. The drawing will take place on Tuesday, January 17th, so don’t delay! {Contest is limited to US & Canadian readers only.}

 

About Overwhelmed

 

Feeling overwhelmed? Wondering if it’s possible to move from “out of my mind” to “in control” when you’ve got too many projects on your plate and too much mess in your relationships?

 

Kathi and Cheri want to show you five surprising reasons why you become stressed, why social media solutions don’t often work, and how you can finally create a plan that works for you. As you identify your underlying hurts, uncover hope, and embrace practical healing, you’ll understand how to…

 

  • trade the to-do list that controls you for a calendar that allows space in your life
  • decide whose feedback to forget and whose input to invite
  • replace fear of the future with peace in the present

 

You can simplify and savor your life—guilt free! Clutter, tasks, and relationships may overwhelm you now, but God can help you overcome with grace.

 

Bios

 

Kathi Lipp is a busy conference and retreat speaker and the bestselling author of several books, including Clutter Free, The Husband Project, and The Get Yourself Organized Project. She and her husband, Roger, live in California and are the parents of four young adults.

 

Cheri Gregory spends her weekdays teaching teens and weekends speaking at women’s retreats. She’s been married to her college sweetheart, Daniel, for more than 28 years. The Gregorys and their young adult kids, Annemarie and Jonathon, live in California.

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The winner of this contest is Kathy who commented 2017/01/13 at 9:07 pm. Thank you for being a part, everyone!

 

Lynn

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Wednesday Wisdom Tip {The Perfect Mother/Daughter Date}

Laughing, crying and the building up confidence.

That is what I call the perfect mother/daughter date and that is what Mariah, Madi and I had the opportunity to experience together Monday night with our trip to the movies.

Finding a good movie to watch with your daughters can be more than a challenge, but Hidden Figures is more than just a good movie. It is an opportunity to let our girls see, through a true story, what we can do when we push past adversity to reach our fullest potential. (Rated PG, this movie is safe for even little girls. She may not understand everything that is happening, but that is simply a door opener for even more conversation!)

A Movie for Building Confidence

Based on our own “car conversation”, here are a few questions you can ask your girl over a fun coffee afterward or even on the drive home. Print it out and pop it in your purse!

  1. When she was only in 6th grade, how do you think Katherine would have felt about going to a new school, even if it meant she could learn more?

  2. Why do you think NASA had separate bathrooms for colored people and white people?

  3. Where do you think Mary Jackson got the courage to go to court in order to go to night school?

  4. These women faced huge adversities to reach their fullest potential. What adversities do you feel you are facing in reaching your’s?

  5. The movie showed how people who are not the same color as each other treat each other differently. How do you still see that in our culture today? What can you do to change that?

 

Do you know of another mom who could use a little help building confidence in her girl? Won’t you take a second and forward her this post?

Thank you for helping me help moms!

Lynn

Monday, January 9, 2017

Do You Need New Too?

As I’m moving into 2017, I’m seeing something new about me.

I need more.

My old Bible study routine isn’t enough for me anymore.

Maybe it’s like an addiction or medication that has been taken too long. It’s like I’ve grown tolerant; I need different and I need new in order to stimulate growth in my life.

So, I’m trying to shake it up a bit.

Starting my day 

Each morning, I love starting my day with the Proverbs 31 Ministries’ First 5 App and Experience Guide. Opening up God’s word in a systematic way, going through one book at a time, fits the orderly gal in me. We’ve just started Joshua and Judges. It’s not too late to join us!

Proverbs 31 Ministries First 5

In the middle of my day, a pick-me-up is Encouragement for Today. It always puts God’s word right in the heart of what I’m going through.

Lastly, is the idea of “sandwiching” my day with God.

I like to read for at least 30 minutes each night to make the transition to sleep. Usually this is reserved for a light novel. But with so many new studies out, I’ve found this is a wonderful time to soak my mind in God’s word before I fall asleep.

Jana Kennedy-Spicer has introduced me to a whole new way of studying God’s word – Bible Study with journaling! If you’ve never given the peaceful practice of coloring a try … this is the time to try it out!

Let Your Light Shine Journaling Bible Study

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Maybe “new” is exactly what you need to begin pursuing God in a fresh way!

What steps are you taking to grow your faith in 2017?

Give one of these studies a try and then come back and let me how “new” is going!

 

Lynn

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

What is Your Why?

Everything we do has a why.

A reason behind why you do what you do.

The reason we work.

The reason we “play”.

The reason we choose to get out of bed each day.

We also have a why for the places we choose to invest in the kingdom of God.

Won’t you take a couple of minutes watch Trisha’s story and learn why Greg and I invest in Proverbs 31 Ministries? Simply click here.

Will you help us help her?

Lynn