I have seen a pattern in my life that I want to change. I love to spend time with my kids. Hiking, swimming, rafting, campfires, shopping, crafting…you name it. There is nothing better than a vacation or a girl’s night out. My problem is the day to day. Engaging them; connecting with them.
Yesterday, I had coffee with my friend Veronica. Veronica, like myself, has a 6th grade daughter. I posed this question to her, “In a world filled with IPods, TV, computers, and noise in general, how do you connect to your daughter when she gets home from school?”
“I set my timer. When I am working at my computer, I set a timer to tell me to go and touch base with my daughter. When it goes off, whatever I am doing, I stop. I find my daughter. I hug her. Hang out in her room for ten minutes or so. Whatever she is doing in her world, I get in it with her.” That advice was exactly what I needed!
Now I know. I needed wisdom. The Lord gave it. Now I am responsible. In John 9:41 Jesus says, “If you were blind, you would not be guilty of sin; but now that you claim you can see, your guilt remains.” He is calling me to take what I have heard and do something with it.
I started yesterday. When the kids came through the door, I set out cookies and milk and sat down to chat. It was only for 10 minutes, but the words out of my child’s mouth was, “I could get used to this!” It was just what we needed!