Today my guest is Elisabeth Huijskens. Elisabeth’s words to us today as moms is unique because she is a teen. I love Elisabeth’s heart and that she passionate about not waiting to do what God has called her to do…introduce others to True Love! Here’s Elisabeth:
I was thirteen when I noticed that I was caught up in a whirlwind. It was a constantly-in-motion whirlwind in which my whole generation was unconsciously trapped, one of dating, first kisses, fairy tales, “like-liking” boys, break-up’s, and so on and so on. We are thrown into a society where actors fall in love during the length of a two hour movie and hand out kisses in every television episode. This is where I, at thirteen, was getting my definition of love. This is the same place where your daughters today are being told what is right and acceptable.
It is when you notice the whirlwind, though, that you can slow it down and stop it. That’s when I found that even the things that we pass off as OK in our world today, do not line up with the Bible! God never says to get a boyfriend when you feel like it. He never says first kisses are innocent as doves or that you can show as much skin as you want.
How much does our misuse of relationships sadden our Jesus?
Instead, our ever-romantic God says, “You have that longing to be loved because I wanted you to be in love with Me; and I made sexuality, even kisses, to be used in a specific way within marriages on earth – so that you could better understand My love before we are standing face to face” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
We live out the true definition of love when we strive to love Jesus through dating, marriage, sex, and womanhood. This is a crazy, grand, romantic, all-consuming definition of love that isn’t reaching your daughters because it is being drowned out by society.
If an army of God-fearing women arose to break the chains that society has wrapped your daughters in, these girls can be free from heartbreak, past relationship baggage, and sexual-immortality shame.
Here’s how you can be a part of a Real Love Movement for your daughters:
~ Lead by example. Your daughter watches everything you do. Even if she yells, argues, ignores, and resists. She is always noticing her mama’s actions. Show her that you, too, are a fearfully and wonderfully made woman and stand for purity within or out of a marriage.
~ Expose her to this true definition of love. Make sure your teenage girl is surrounded with the Word of God, resources like the books found here, time of prayer, and worship music. Let your daughter find what channel she is drawn to the most, but as her mother provide her with what she needs. But don’t stop there. Talk to her about Jesus and His love. Pray with her. God made you her mother on purpose. You were made “for such a time as this” (Esther 4:14).
~ Have resources for yourself! Teen girls have the media telling them what is right and acceptable. Personally, make sure she knows how God intended sexuality to be used, how God thinks it’s OK to dress, and what the Bible says about romantic relationships and marriage. If these are lessons you have yet to unveil, you could impact your daughter greatly be learning these truths and sharing them with your beautiful daughter.
Your teenage daughter has a Groom waiting for her, one who wants to love her, show her how to love, and teach her how to be in love with a man during this lifetime. I don’t speak from experience that I’m recollecting. At seventeen, I stand among your teenage daughters and admit that they need moms who know that God has written the most romantic love story, and that we are in the very center of it.
Today, Elisabeth is giving away a signed copy of her book, Putting Fairy Tales to Shame. To enter, just click on comments below (or go to www.LynnCowell.com) share what you think is the biggest obstacle in teaching girls where true love is found. If you’re in a whirlwind Christmas shopping, just say, “I’m in!”. I’ll announce the winner on Monday!
Elisabeth Huijskens is an author, speaker, and worship leader who desires to use God’s truth and presence to help young women become the women their Designer created them to be. By determining the lies and overpowering girls with Jesus’ love, young women are finding healing, able to live in God’s presence, and learning how to have the best possible romantic relationships with men, relationships that are pleasing to God and free from emotional baggage.