Am I too broken to be healed?
Maybe, in the quiet of your heart, where no one can see, you’ve asked that question. You remember the woman you used to be, before it happened.
You’ve thought of the woman you’ve longed to be, but now, you’re just not sure you could ever be her.
My dear, courageous friend, Suzie Eller, has written a book for us who have asked this question.
The Mended Heart
Several years ago I was at a Turning Point Conference. At that time I was working with teens, and my church sent me as a conferee. The facilitator flipped the lights off and a film started playing.
The movie was about a dysfunctional family in the midst of a meltdown moment. Mom and Dad were arguing. One child was screaming in defiance. Another hid around the corner in angst. Then I saw her.
She was trying to make everything okay. Like a tightrope walker, she asked the screaming teen to stop yelling as she attempted to comfort her little brother. She was trying to keep the pieces from falling all around her, but she simply wasn’t old or wise or big enough.
I heard someone crying nearby.
Wow, that person must have been really hurt in the past to cry so publicly. What isn’t anyone helping her?
Then I realized the sobbing person was me.
I jumped out of my seat, left the room, and found an empty stall in the women’s bathroom. A pair of red shoes appeared, just visible under the door of the stall.
“I don’t understand this. I’m here because I want to help others,” I whispered to her.
The red shoes remained still for a few seconds, and then I heard these words: “Honey, sometimes God lets you remember for a reason.”
The sight of that little peacemaker in the movie had triggered emotions long healed. Perhaps that is the most powerful lesson I took away from that conference, and it’s one I still hold close today. We can become so whole (a wonderful gift!) that we forget the magnitude of what we have been given. God reached down to give me a glimpse into the brokenness I had once carried as a little peacemaker, and to remind me how much He had healed my shattered heart.
Maybe you feel broken. Maybe others call you broken. Maybe it seems like you’ll never get there from here.
May I share something with you? Something powerful. Something transforming.
The Jesus Factor is bigger than the people factor.
You are NEVER too broken to be made whole. You are invited to join in a partnership with God in healing, and He’s bigger.
Sure, you’ve tried to do this on your own, but as you partner with Him, a shift in the way you view yourself begins to take place, as you:
- Exchange the burden of what people have done or said, with confidence of the changes and growth taking place on the inside of you
- Strip ordinary people of their power as you realize that people, whether through evil, or selfishness or simply their own brokenness, can shape you, but it doesn’t define you
Write these scriptures on the mirror in lipstick. Or put a sticky note on your steering wheel. Say them daily until they soak into your heart.
No person is greater than your God! (1 John 4:4)
Your heavenly Father loves you unconditionally, right where you are (1 John 3:1)
Nothing can ever separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39)
Regardless of another person’s brokenness or sin, you are marked with destiny (Isaiah 49:16; 1 Corinthians 2:9)
As we release the people factor to hold close the Jesus factor, something powerful takes place. We no longer look to mere humans to make us feel valued or worthwhile. We stop waiting for another person to be fixed before we run after all that God holds out for us. We begin to see ourselves the way God does.
And one day, my prayer is that you’ll look back, just like I did, and be in awe of all that God has done inside of you and then come alongside others and help them find healing, too.”
I’m also excited to be giving away a copy of Suzie’s book, The Mended Heart today. If you want to share in the comments below, I’d love to hear your heart; have you share where you need Jesus to heal you…or how He already has. If that’s too hard, simply say, “I’m in”. Please be sure to enter your comments below. (If you receive these posts by email, simply head to www.LynnCowell.com.) I will post the winner of her book on Tuesday.
Suzie Eller is a Proverbs 31 Ministries Speaker and author, and has been featured on hundreds of radio and TV programs. She’s a mom, wife, and “Gaga” to five babies three and under, and lives in NW Arkansas. She’s a follower of Christ and loves nothing more than leading women in a new direction in family, faith, and feelings. You can connect with Suzie at www.suzanneeeller.com or www.facebook.com/SuzanneEllerP31 or www.proverbs31.org.