Today I have as my guest my friend, Lee Nienhuis, author of the new book Brave Moms, Brave Kids; A Battle Plan for Raising Heroes.
She bowed her head and began to pray, the same version of the prayers I had heard for the last few weeks.
Dear God, Thank you for this day. Please keep Daddy safe at work today. When we go to school, please help us to have a good day and keep us safe. Thank you for Mommy. Keep her safe today here at home….
Safe. Safe. Safe.
I could hear it in her tone, and in the repetition of her words. Fear had taken hold of her precious little, seven year old heart, and was making itself at home there, even unpacking its nasty bags. As I reflected on the condition of her heart and the delicate tending that needed to happen, the Holy Spirit nudged me in the most convicting way.
Lee, she’s praying the same safe script that you have praying. ‘Keep them, safe, Lord.’ What ever happened to brave prayers?
Per usual, when the Holy Spirit points out truth, He was right.
I used to pray these great big hero prayers for my children. Ones that begged God to let them be warriors in His kingdom, filled with boldness, defiant of fear, and willing to live lives poured out for His glory and the salvation of others. I had asked daily for their salvation, until they had entrusted their lives to Him, but now, the prayers for them to be bold were melting away.
Somewhere along the way, fear had snuck in and whispered to my heart, “If your kids are warriors, that means they will see war. People get hurt in war. There are enemies in war, and sometimes soldiers never come home. Are you sure that’s what you want?” And my brave Mama resolve slipped to the floor.
That’s when my safe prayers began. And fear unpacked its bags and began to permeate my home in the quietest, but evident way, until one day my daughter’s prayer startled me awake.
I began to see that the enemy of my soul had been feeding me a lie.
The lie was that my version of safe and my plan for my children’s lives was better and fuller than God’s.
Safe had taken on a new definition. Safe had become:
The real threat of always praying they’ll be safe is that it considers the threats of the enemy as worth more than the promises of God.
My brave lay in a quiet corner of my heart, and it wasn’t until I realized I’d flat been lied to that I saw brave resurrected.
Brave begins with BELIEVING God.
It begins when we look right at the enemy of our souls and say, “No, Satan you are lying to me. The truth is that my God is the Most High. (Ps 91:1) There is nowhere my children will go where Christ will not have all authority. (Matthew 28:19) He is a shelter to those who run to Him. (Psalm 46:1-3) He is their helper. (Hebrews 13:5) And through the Spirit He will give them everything they need for life and godliness, come what may. (2 Peter 1:3) And you, nasty sir, will get behind me.”
As, the Lord began to rewrite the safe script in my mind, I felt my strength rise, and yours can too. It all begins with tuning yourself to the frequency of God’s word, and believing Him.
You can believe Him, Friend, when He says:
Never will I leave you (or them), never will I forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)
His faithful love will remain forever. (Psalm 136)
He will supply for all your needs. (Philippians 4:19)
That He is the source of all comfort. (2 Corinthians 1:3)
That He listens when we call. (Jeremiah 33:3)
Today, put on your bossy pants and tell the Enemy the truth.
Your God has not failed a single generation, and you and your kids’ won’t be the place He’ll drop the ball. He stakes His name on it.
Because I treasure you as my reader and out of the generosity of Lee’s publisher, we’re giving one reader a copy of Lee’s new book, Brave Moms, Brave Kids: a Battle Plan for Raising Heroes.
This world feels like it’s spinning faster every day. As the darkness has crept in, your brave prayers may have given way to fearful pleas that your kids would experience God’s kingdom—in a safe and comfortable way.
This generation needs heroes of the faith and your child can be one of them, but that will require you to be strong and BRAVE. You and I must call out the bold Christ followers within our children and help them face the unknown future with divine confidence.
Brave Moms, Brave Kids is an equipping tool that will help you…
- identify the qualities present in true greatness
- reject “mommy fears” and replace them with immovable truth
- learn strategies for praying for and training your children more effectively
- develop seven key lessons we must teach our children to live for Jesus
Courage starts with you, Mama. If you’re going to raise a hero, you must become a hero—because brave kids need brave moms. Let’s do this, together.
******** The winner of this contest is Tracy Barton Niles who posted at