WWT: How Much is Your Girl Showing?
A few years ago I caught a glimpse of Tyra. The talk show host was dragging it all out in the open as she interviewed a panel of teen girls. The topic: sexting. The surprise guests: their mothers. I watched as fifteen-, fourteen- and thirteen-year-old girls talked very frankly of the explicit language and nude pictures that they regularly exchange with their friends. Their mothers had no idea it was happening. The girl on the phone was a totally different girl than the daughter at home or so they thought.
I don’t know about your home, but it is a common occurrence here for my girl to see phones passed around in school. She knows exactly what the guys are sharing.
This is a topic no mom wants to go over with her girl, but we must. Nudes have become common place in our kid’s culture. We cannot pretend it is not happening.
It’s important to know, for starters, who your girl is on social media. Is the girl at the supper table each evening the same girl on Instagram? Is she one girl when praying at night and a different one when texting in the dark?
In Acts 5, Peter was being pushed and pulled by those around him who called the shots, the guys who determined who was in, and who was out (they had so much power they could determine who would live and who would die!) Peter’s answer to these dudes was “It is better to obey God rather than men.”
Does the life of our kids’ reflect Peter’s statement?
Standing for something when everyone else is falling for everything is beyond hard. Yet in 2 Timothy 1:12, Paul challenges Timothy, “Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day.”
Don’t be afraid to challenge your girl. Who is she going to be, and what is she going to stand for?
Let’s pray for our girls:
Jesus, help ___________ to want to stand up for you. It’s so hard. Holy Spirit, whisper to her if she is being fake. Empower her to be real and choose to obey you. Amen.
Ask your girl to be honest today. Is the the girl she is projecting and the girl she is at home one and the same?
HONEST! Thank you for sharing this! It IS happening. This IS reality!
We need to not pretend and turn our heads. Do NOT be afraid to confront this. Do NOT try to decide it’s not true. Face it and deal with it, no matter how hard it is! Pray your way through this. Your child WILL thank you one day!
Thank you, Lisa!
Thank you to those who have emailed me. I know as moms this topic is hard…and embarrassing. If our girls are caught in this, it does not make them bad. It means they are hurting and desperately want to be noticed and adored. We can help them to find the attention and adoration they are seeking for in the powerful, unconditional love of Jesus!