Best Friend Break Up

Inseparable. Where Lexi was; Noelle was. School, sports, sleep-overs…whatever it was, they did it together.

At least last year. This year, things changed because Noelle changed. Stuff they thought was dumb last year was now important to her this year; popular kids, expensive clothes and “in” parties.

That was just the outside things. Noelle’s heart was different too. Being around the popular crowd was super important and that meant doing the stuff they did.

Knowing Lexi didn’t approve of things she was doing made Noelle not want to be around Lexi, breaking Lexi’s heart. She wasn’t judging Noelle, so why did Noelle have to feel this way?

In 1 Samuel 16:4, Samuel, God’s prophet to Israel, obeyed God…no matter what God said to do and the people knew it. When Samuel went into a city, the officials of that city felt uncomfortable. Why was Samuel coming? What would he say to them? Would he call them out on the sin in their lives? Samuel’s presence alone made them squirm.

This same scernio can happen to our kids. When they choose to live a life that pleases God, it’s going to make some people really uncomfortable. It’s not that our kids are judging others even. It is because light and darkness just can’t be in the same place at the same time.

This hurts; rejection always does. There is a price to pay for following Jesus, with benefits and blessings, but that doesn’t make it easy.

We need to encourage our kids that the benefits of peace, positive self-esteem, confidence and joy far out way the price of being on the outside of the in crowd.

Hug them; let them grieve their loss, and then encourage them that the Lord will reward them with his blessings as they continue to obey!

The winner of Monday’s post “What Do You Think of Me? Why Do I Care?” by Edward Welch is lc at [email protected]. Congratulations! Please email me your full name and address and I will get it right out!



  1. This isn’t just true for teenagers. Thank you for the reminder and the encouragement.

    1. You’re right, Heather! I have definiately experienced this as an adult!

  2. Wow. Thank You so much for giving me words to help my daughter who is going through this currently. I look forward to reading this to her when she gets home.

    1. We’re going through it here too 🙂

  3. This goes for adults and family, too. What to do when your adult children are living in sin, or condoning it. It is hard for a mother, whose children have been close for decades, when one or two are uncomfortable with her now. I think I have to stand for what is right, regardless, and beg God to get me through the loneliness and rejection.

    1. Couldn’t agree with you more, Linda! But we have faith knowing that God will bring them back!

  4. This is for girlfriends of all ages!!! Bittersweet when this happens. Honoring God and trusting Him through the pain brings forth so much fruit.

    You spoke to my heart today, Lynn!


    1. Thanks Sharon! Such a compliment coming from such a wise woman!

  5. Lynn,
    Thank you for sharing these words. This has been true in my life and now I am seeing it happen in my daughter’s life. I’m so proud that my daughter stands for what is right, but at the same time it’s hard to see her go through this.
    Thanks for the encouraging words to share with her!

  6. Thank you!

    Lets pray for Godly friends for the children and ourselves.

    You have a new regular blog reader! 😉


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  8. I survived a best friend breakup and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. There was a huge misunderstanding and a lack of ability on both our sides to resolve the issue. It sucks and I miss her. But I have made some good friends since then so I guess life goes on.

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