How to Love on Your Young Adult Daughter This Holiday Season {Guest Post & Give Away!}



Today, while I am traveling to speak to teen girls, my very cool friend, Sarah Martin, is going to share with us how we can love on the young adults in our lives this holiday season! I know I sure can use this advice!

Here’s Sarah:




I love the warm fuzzy memories of coming home from school for Thanksgiving or Christmas break. My mom would have the house decorated for the season and prepared my favorite meals. She didn’t even mind the mound of dirty laundry I plopped on the floor! All the stress of mid terms, finals, friend drama, boyfriend breakups and long hours at work melted away with a hug from my mama.


Here are a few things to keep in mind as you pour into the heart of your young adult daughter during the holidays:


~Letting her vent goes a long way. Your daughter may or may not want advice but a safe place to express her life frustration goes a long way –– especially when you do have some wise words to share at the appropriate time.


~Be sweet to the visiting boyfriend. This is a tough one if he is not the guy you always dreamed your daughter would bring home for Thanksgiving dinner. Pray, pray and pray some more over her romantic relationships. Drama during the holidays is a sure fire way to create space between you and your girl.


~Be sure to compliment her hair. If you start off the holiday with a compliment instead of a criticism about her hair, her makeup or her wardrobe, she will feel accepted and secure. What girl doesn’t want her mom’s approval?


~Set aside some girl time. The holidays are hectic. There’s much to prepare. But investing one on one time will create memories that last forever. Even if she seems too busy visiting friends, push for that quality time. She will love that you care so much, even if she doesn’t express it!



These are just a few ideas to make the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday a meaningful time for you and your daughter.


I would love to hear how YOU plan to love on your young adult daughter this season. Leave a comment…let’s chat!

Today, one blessed gal will receive a copy of Sarah’s book just for 20 somethings: Stress Point: Thriving in Your Twenty’s in a Decade of Drama.  This book would make a fabulous gift for that 20something in your life! In fact, it’s one gift that could make an eternal difference in the life of the one you love!


Sarah Martin has a passion to encourage young adults to LIVE OUT! the Kingship of Christ in everyday life. When she is not typing on her lap top or rough housing with her young son, Sarah loves to get her hands messy with craft paint. Read more from Sarah at LIVE IT OUT! blog.


Sarah is also the author of Stress Point: Thriving Through Your Twenties In A Decade Of Drama. Stress Point is a real, raw and relevant look at ten major life issues that most 20-somethings deal with (money,dating, career, etc.) Through out the book, Sarah encourages readers to live out the Kingship of Christ in every single stress point to find godly success, purpose and well-being.



  1. Ooh, great tips, Sarah. As a twenty something I love your advice to parents. While I don’t have a daughter, I’d add be willing to let traditions change to your fantastic list. Sometimes parents have trouble embracing the fact that their daughter is now grown and may want to celebrate in a different way or change up some old traditions.

    Lynn, I’m so glad you featured Sarah. I love her writing and she’s such a big encouragement to me. 🙂

  2. Thanks for the advice Sarah!! I have a 15 yo daughter so I will remember this advice for when she gets a little older, but parts are relevant even today (especially the part about complimenting the hair…lol..) I need to remember to do that more often!! I also have a young cousin in her 20s, and a newlywed, who I think would really benefit from your book! I am going to recommend it to her!! Thanks!!!

    1. Yes, Ramona…the hair one is a MUST. Ha! 🙂 Thanks for passing along my book title to your cousin!

  3. Thanks for this Sarah! Two of my daughters are coming home for Thanksgiving. I love it so much when they are home…still, I can so or do the wrong thing. Thanks for these excellent reminders.

  4. I plan to send a card by snail mail to let her know she’s thought of and remembered.

  5. Lucy Sanguinetti says:

    My 19-year-0ld daughter, Abbie, loves Christmas more than any other season of the year. She starts listening to Christmas music and watching Christmas movies in August!!! One way that I love on her is to set up a small Christmas tree with mini lights and mini ornaments on her bed side table. That way, when she gets home for the holidays, she has a warm welcome waiting for her in her room. I also put a little music box, that she adores, under the tree and when you wind it up, it plays “Have yourself a Merry little Christmas”! It’s a great start to the holiday season.

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