I did it again. Messed up…again. I told myself I was helping, but it wasn’t my place to speak up and as usual it backfired. Contemplating all that had happened that evening, Jesus spoke to me. Of course, not literally spoke to me, but He nudged me. “You’re a meddler Lynn and you need to be done with it. When you meddle, you are not trusting. When you meddle, you are saying I can’t handle it. You know I can. So be done with it. No more.”
I’m a meddler.
Not a fixer. No; that is what I’d like to call it. It is what I have called it in the past, but that is just a nice way of putting it.
Not a gossiper. No; that is someone who intentionally separates and that’s not my heart. I want to help. Really I do.
I’m a meddler. Dictionary.com says the definition of meddler is: a verb (used without object) as in meddled, meddling. To involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation; interfere officiously and unwantedly.
Without right or invitation. That’s what I do. Seeing an unhappy, unhealthy, or unholy situation I listen to the whisper in my head. Since I see it, I think I’m to do something about it.
But most often, I am not. In fact, 1 Thessalonians 4:11 says“…aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you.”
My place is to be quiet and pray. But I don’t. I fix. I manipulate. I get involved.
So, there you have it. Now that I seeing my actions for what they are, it is my responsibility to change. To change, I will have to slow down before I take action or open my mouth. I’ll have to ask myself: Are you meddling?
Will I be tempted? Every day. Will I mess up? I hope not, but it’s highly probable. I’m human. My heart, my desire though, is to stay out. Let Jesus do it. I will ask for prayers to pray, not words to say.
This change is going to be hard. But I know Jesus is serious about not meddling. Proverb 26:17 says, “Whoever meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a passing dog by the ears.” (ESV) In other words, not too smart. And that is not what I want to be; I want to be wise.
Any other meddlers out there? Can you think of times when you have gotten involved and you should not have? When the thing Jesus wanted you to do was pray and only pray? Let’s pray for each other and ask Jesus to open our eyes to see and leave troubles up to Him.