This year at Proverbs 31 Ministries’ She Speaks conference, I had the privilege of meeting Tracey Finck. Tracey also has a heart to invest in young women; I have asked her to be my guest blogger today while I am traveling home from a “Revolutionary Love” conference.
By Tracey Finck
Well, another school year has begun! Doesn’t it seem like just last year your girl was starting kindergarten?
How soon will you be sending her off to college or the big wide world? Very soon! And when that time comes, you’ll want to send her with something meaningful to remember you by, something to help her always know she is loved.
When our oldest daughter left for college, she packed—along with her purple gooseneck floor lamp and her stack of music CDs—a spiral-bound yellow book whose cover featured a smiling bumble bee and the words BEE HAPPY. It was an empty book I had filled for her with notes about herself: funny things she said, happy moments we shared, nice things I heard others say about her, quotes I thought she might want to remember, and true stories about challenges she overcame. It’s a make-shift book written in whatever color pen was within reach, illustrated with a few snapshots that show Betsy in her best light and some mementos from our shared lives.
That journal took years to fill, but only cost me about 10 or 15 minutes at a time, maybe once or twice a month.
For that small investment, both she and I have been made rich.
One morning, a few months after she left for college, Betsy called. She hadn’t been able to sleep the night before, what with roommate troubles and deadlines on assignments and no boyfriend in sight and doubts about her major—not to mention homesickness. So in the middle of the night she quietly climbed down from her bunk bed, grabbed her Bee Happy book, and went out into the dorm hallway. She sat on the floor, leaning against the wall, reading her book of notes from me. On those pages she found proof that she was loved and lovable, she found evidence that she had overcome problems in the past. She was reminded of her strengths and beauty. She saw herself through the loving mirror of my eyes. After reading halfway through the journal and having a good cry, she felt peaceful enough to go back to bed and get some sleep.
In the morning she called to thank me. It was one of those meaningful moments that make me glad to be a mother.
I keep a journal for each of our three children. It keeps me focused on the meaningful moments so they don’t get lost in the daily grind.
Today why not put on your errand list to pick up a notebook or journal you could use to start collecting details from daily life and words of encouragement you want your daughter to remember.
Today, I am giving away a copy of Tracey’s book Love Letters to a Child. To enter, just click on comments below and share how you think your child would respond to a special journal for him or her. I will announce the winner on Wednesday’s Wisdom Tips!
Tomorrow I will post a special video by Tracey as well so be sure to stop back!