See What You Don’t See Coming


See What She Didn't See

It seems harmless enough.

A song on her iPod. The dinging of a text. But next thing you know, your girl is weeping in her room. A ball of twisted emotions seemed to emerge from no where.

What happened? Minutes ago, she was actually laughing. Suddenly, she slid down the roller coaster of emotions before either one of you knew what took place. It may seem like a coincidence; the timing of it all. But in reality, it is anything but chance.

Paul tells us:

Most importantly, be disciplined and stay on guard. Your enemy the devil is prowling around outside like a roaring lion, just waiting and hoping for the chance to devour someone. 1 Peter 5:8 (The Voice)

Just waiting.

For the chance.

Nothing in our lives or the lives of our girls is by chance. Instead, our enemy Satan is looking for the chance to trip us up.

Looking, scheming, scouting, just waiting for the perfect opportunity to:

Bring back the hurt through a familiar song.

Be reminded: her friend has a guy in her life.  She doesn’t.

See pictures of the plans she wasn’t a part of.

He will hold back nothing to get at her heart and into her mind; whatever it takes to trip her heart and drag her down. And all the while knowing she’ll believe it was the boy, the friend, the crowd that have made her feel that way.

But we can learn and we can teach our girls how to be on the watch, on the look out, for exactly what we don’t see coming. Whether we’re 16 or 46: be on guard. 

Being on guard includes daily, pouring in the truth that we are unconditionally love, adored, and pursed by the One, our Love, Jesus.

Ephesians 6 describes this process: every day, put on the breastplate of righteousness; protecting our heart from words that tell us we’re not pretty enough, good enough…just never enough.

We’re prepared with the shield of faith, up and ready, putting out every flaming thought coming toward our mind and aimed at our heart. Our faith in the love and acceptance we have from Christ quickly shoots down thoughts and words with the purpose of destroying our confidence in Jesus.

Our mind is protected, covered by the helmet of salvation, knowing that while culture says we are not enough, Jesus said we were to die for!

And finally, ready at all times, the sword of the Spirit, the truth of the Word of God hidden in our hearts so that when Satan attacks, we are ready!

How can a girl, just years away from playing with dolls, learn to fight emotions that seem too powerful? Mood swings that try to take away all peace from her life? Avoid the daily surfacing “girl drama”?

From you.

After the hugs, the crying with her and the simple listening, you can teach her to see what she didn’t see coming. To protect her heart by being selective to the music she hears, who she follows on social media and pouring God’s truth into her spirit each and every day.




  1. Jenny Rutan says:

    I am printing this off to keep in my bible to read and re-read it. This is not only an awesome post for my 18 year old daughter, but for me as well as a reminder of WHO I AM and my weapon’s against the enemy! Thanks Lynn and God bless you and yours.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Hey Jenny, I just spent a copy of days with my good friend from Proverb 31 Ministries’ Suzie Eller. We talked about how often Satan puts the bait out there…and we take it. Lord, keep us on the look out and to not fall for it! With the counsel of the Holy Spirit, we can!

  2. Timely as we have had some bumpy times with full schedule for school adn after school activities plus Dad taveling on business Satan would rather not have him and his colleagues address. Thanks.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Busyness is one of his traps, isn’t it, Linda? I know when I am tired or overwhelmed, I am so vulnerable!

  3. I have two daughters that are still playing with dolls and years away from this, but I am already preparing myself. One of my most earnest desires is to help them avoid the traps that I so easily fell into. Thank you for this post!

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Candace, I started pouring these truth in my girls’ hearts when they were playing with dolls too. This is when their hearts are soft and pliable and it makes all the difference!

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