That Holiday Pressure to Perform


It’s every where and a bit earlier too.

The Christmas decorations.

For many, Christmas can’t come fast enough! The twinkling lights with decorations of gold stir up warm memories of time with family and friends.

For others … the holidays bring pressure. Even now, that stress across your shoulders is heavy.

It feels like we even need confidence to “do” Christmas.

What do you need to do but lack the confidence or courage to do it?

Maybe it has nothing to do with the holidays at all.

You want, you need to go back to college. Give a presentation. Look for a new job or go for that promotion.  Move to a different city.  I’ve so been there, even when it has come to pursuing my potential with God.

I think a part of us believes if God nudges us to do something, it won’t be that hard. The least He can do is not make it difficult … right? In fact, it seems that each time He has called me to step out and forge a new path with Him, there has been a struggle involved. Those struggles have involved recovering from rejection … over and over and over again as in last week. It has require me to believe that Psalm 37:23 is true. My steps are ordered by the Lord, even when the path looks to me like failure.

The enemy whispers his lies to us; it’s all he is capable of. You can’t do it. You’re not good enough. You’re not fun enough. You don’t have enough. You’re not loved enough. You’re not qualified, educated or smart enough.

Fear overshadows your confidence.

I wonder if these were some of the feelings of the two really cool women I encountered as I studied confidence: the women of the book of Exodus. One of the things I really love about the Bible, is even after you have read it over and over and over again, something new will stand out in a story you have already heard.

These gals names were Shiprah and Puah and their story is found in Exodus 1. Shiprah and Puah may have, like me at times, believed they were not courageous enough for what they were facing. Not confident enough. Not brave enough for the enormous task ahead.

And yet what they may have felt and what they may have believed in the beginning all changed as they found the confidence they needed for the undertaking that lay before them.

The new Pharaoh of Egypt felt threatened by the Israelites. His own insecurity and fear pushed him to begin putting pressure on the Israelites. His plan was intimidation, aimed at these two Hebrew women.

The monarch delivers this edict to the midwives: Kill your own people. “When you are helping the Hebrew women during childbirth on the delivery stool, if you see that the baby is a boy, kill him; but if it is a girl, let her live” (Exodus 1:16). The pressure to perform according to his expectations would have felt insurmountable.

From that day forward, life could not go on as usual for Shiphrah and Puah; a choice had to be made. They needed to make up their minds what move they would make before they received their next patient’s call.

Exodus 1:17 tells of their answer: “The midwives, however, feared God and did not do what the king of Egypt had told them to do; they let the boys live.”

Though Shiphrah and Puah may have been trembling in Pharaoh’s presence, they did not allow the situation to paralyze them. Yes, they were struck with awe but not by the powerful, intimidation of Pharaoh. Their fear of God, their desire to obey and please Him, empowered them with the courage to let the male sons live, and that courage would not fail them now as they faced accounting for their actions.

Shiphrah and Puah chose to fear God over fearing Pharaoh. They would not cave to his pressure to perform.

 Do it scared became their motto.

There are times in my life when, like these two brave gals, I feel fearful as well. To overcome my fear, a few years ago I created a list of verses that I read to refuel my faith and bat down fear. Reading God’s word out loud builds my confidence and helps me to “Do it Scare” – like Shiprah and Puah.

Are there times you too have to “do it scared”? I thought so! That’s why I have created the Do it Scared Pep Talk. Created into a beautiful download, it is one of many pre-order exclusives when you purchase Make Your Move: Despite Your Fears and Failures before November 21st.

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With the holidays coming, this study might just be the perfect gift to give yourself as you face the pressures you might feel to make the holidays “perfect”.

Jesus can empower us, friend, to make our move and find the confidence we need to do this year’s holidays, not from a place of fearing pleasing others, but in the peace of our Savior.



  1. Yes! I do seminary scared every single day 🙂 Thanks for your life-giving reminder that I’m never alone as I seek to love God with my mind!

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      I love this, Christa! Keep going!

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