What a struggle for me.
Seeped in expectation.
Todd Guckenberger recently told me, “Expectation is premeditated resentment.”
Our children are going to experience disappointment. This generation expects to be happy. We have programmed them to believe that they can be anything, do anything and all of their dreams should come true. But that is not what Jesus has said. He has said “in this life you will have troubles, but take heart for I have overcome the world!” (John 16:33)
They are going to get cut from the team. They will not get an invitation to the party. The lead part will be given to someone else and the boy will not ask them to prom.
What’s a mom to do?
We model seeing our situations as divine disappointment.
Yesterday, disappointment was the theme of the day. Vacation plans fell through. More house problems were found. Children made poor choices. My daughter stood in the kitchen, observing my reaction, I am sure.
Thankfully, the Lord helped me to handle it well then, but today, the bummed out feelings came with a vengeance and I just wanted to crawl back in bed.
Ephesians 3:17…I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power…to grasp how wide, long, high, and deep is the love of Christ. I saw afresh: The Love that gives to me is the same love that keeps from me.
After the initial pain of the disappointed has worn away, share this truth when your child is disappointed.
Why might God have chosen to keep you from making the team or not given you the lead in the play? Does your child struggle with pride? Share how you struggle with pride (if you need some stories, just shoot me an email, I’ll share some of mine!)
What could God’s reason be for not allowing you to be invited to the party? Does He have other friends lined up for your good?
Did God have that boy reject you to protect you?
The Love that gives to your child is the same Love that keeps from your child.
Let’s teach our children to look to their perfect Father and see that maybe it’s a divine disappointment.