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Today’s tip generates from a question from a bloggy friend:
“I am struggling. My daughter is a freshman at Bible college and has “let herself go”. While still doing well on her studies, mentoring children, in Bible study group and in a new “urban ministry” church downtown, she has let her weight get out of control, she’s not taking care of her skin, she takes on the “grunge” look to go to class, and most recently showed up with ear gauges in her ears. She thinks that these huge holes will just grow back, but they won’t. They will be permanent. I don’t know how to pray. I don’t know scripturally where to look and I don’t want a wedge between my daughter and me. Please pray for me and if you have any direction, I welcome your advice.”
I have been on just about every side of this story. I, too, have a child in college and can relate to the changes that can occur in a life when they leave home.
As a sophomore in high school, my daughter also went through a grunge stage. Why would a girl who was so beautiful want to look that way? A dear friend of mine, Shari Braendel, gave me some sound advice, “Lynn, if she is not sinning, leave her alone.”
That smarted! I think I took I took it so hard because I wanted my girl to look better for my sake probably more than for her’s. I was focusing on the outside more than what was on the inside.
Our children look for ways to be their own person; different than us. As they grow up and leave home, sometimes this takes the form of things we are uncomfortable with such as gauges, tattoos and other things we do to our bodies. (I wrote post on tattoos and why people are attracted to them.) These can be indicators of what is taking place in the heart, but they are not always negative.
I believe the Lord would encourage us the same way that He encouraged Samuel in 1 Samuel 16:7 “…The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” Our children’s heart needs to be the focus of our prayers and attention .
What do you think?
The winner from yesterday’s post of “Building a Bridge to Your Child’s Heart” CD is Colleen G. Congratulations! Please e-mail me at Lynn@LynnCowell.com your full name and address, Colleen and I’ll get it right out to you!
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