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It’s going to hit sometime. That moment in the life of your child when they need advice. You’ve invested years in your relationship together so you hope she’ll come to you. Let me ask you: when you were at a crossroads in your life, did you go to your mom? A few of you will say “yes”, but the majority of you will say “no”.
Here is where you can still influence your child: as soon as possible, encourage your child to have a relationship with a godly adult. This person could be their small group leader from church, a friend of the family, a coach with a Biblical perspective, an aunt or an uncle. My girls have a variety of adults that they could call when they need advice. One is a dear friend of mine; another are small group leaders.
If your child doesn’t have another adult they can speak to, chances are when pushed against a wall, they will run to their peers. Peer advice can be destructive. Several dear friends of mined made life altering decisions such as getting an abortion without their mothers ever knowing.
Ask your child today who they feel they can turn to when they just don’t feel comfortable turning to you. Make sure they know that you encourage this relationship and are grateful God gave it to them! Also, ask yourself today, “Am I a safe place for a child?” Maybe this year is the time for you to begin to invest in a life of child who is not your own.