Wednesday Wisdom Tip – Sex & the Ball Field

Today’s Wisdom Tip question comes from Breeana:

“Hi Lynn. My daughter plays softball on a high school team. She recently shared with me that her teammates “interviewed” her, asking if she was gay or straight. She tells me half the girls on her team are gay or bi-sexual; in fact, two girls date each other. This makes game time uncomfortable. Also she got invited to go swimming at a teammate’s house that claims to be gay. Do I let my daughter go? …Society makes these girls think that it’s okay to have relations with the same sex. It’s hard to know if I’m teaching my daughter the right way.”

This is a tough issue, Breeana, and one our family has faced. Here are a few tips to help you navigate these uncertain waters.

Teach your child:

1) To have compassion; to love.

My daughter reminded me yesterday that if Jesus was physically here right now, He would be hanging out with those who didn’t know him. If we are going to share His radical love, we need relationship.


2) To find out what the Bible says about this sin.

Don’t just give your child your opinion; gently show them the Lord’s. This is where you are going to have to dig in and know your Bible so you can teach your child truth.


3) Loving and accepting are the not the same.

One of my daughters has several friends who are gay/bi. They know that she loves them, genuinely and deeply. They also know that she doesn’t approve of their choices. Loving them keeps the doors open for her to share and show real love from Jesus. They will know we are Christians by our love, not our rejection.


4) This sexual sin is no different than other sexual sin.

1 Corinthians 6:18 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” Make sure she knows that all sexual sin hurts us and our relationship with God. All.


We need to know each one of our children well. Know what sins they are more susceptible to; have a bent towards so we can help them to create wise boundaries. At the same time, we are also teaching and showing them that we are the light of the world. Jesus has given us life and truth to share with those around us so that they too can be radically changed by His revolutionary love.

How are you handling this situation in your family? I’d love to hear the wisdom God has given you! Just click on “comments” below!




  1. Dear Breeana, I put my son in a public school at 15 and was amazed how many people he said are bi-sexual or homosexual at his school. I had no idea what he would be dealing with everyday in that area. As Lynn mentioned that is no the only sexual sin that our kids are faced with in the hall of their high schools every day.
    Knowing the scripture and helping you child to have a strong reason behind their reason to be pure until marriage and “one woman for one man” is really important. I am thankful that he is a “manly man” and has a desire to hang our with the kids that are more defined in their sexual roles.
    :Love the sinner, hate the sin”, no matter what the sin is how we deal with this issue.
    I will be praying for you and your daughter.

    1. Deena – thanks so much for sharing your wisdom!

  2. even though the Bible says love one another and show compassion…also says to be careful who you are with…because one can become as same… i believe it depends of the maturity of the person..i personally believe it is sometimes dangerous, remember the enemy is looking for someone to destroy and devour and what a better way to do it…Jesus was friends of sinners…but we see that these sinners transformed their lifes because of the power of Jesus… we could have the same power by the Holy Spirit living in us…but we have to be grounded on the Word…just my 2 cents…not trrying to discourage anyone out there

    1. Couldn’t agree more, Iraida!

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