October is National Bullying Prevention Month.
I’d like to share a post I wrote awhile ago, but the fresh reminder to myself this morning was a good one.
Thought you might like it too!
Standing in line for a concert gave my family a lot of people watching time. I began to point out all of the girls dressed immodestly. “Can you believe she would wear that out in public?” “Oh my! I can’t believe she feels comfortable dressed like that!” I commented as one by one the young women passed us by.
After quite few statements, my oldest daughter said, “Mom, you are being so mean!” Wow, did I feel small, but she was so right. I thought I was pointing out to my girls how not to dress. My girls already know that; I have been teaching them that since they were five! What I was teaching them was how to judge another woman. I was teaching them how to be mean!
After my episode, I’ve come to the conclusion that mean girls come from mean mommas. When we point out other’s flaws, we are modeling a judgmental heart. What we need to demonstrate is compassion.
One way that we are overcoming a mean spirit in our family is by being accountable to each other. When my girls are gossiping or putting another girl down, I gently point it out. My girls in turn do the same for me.
At first, having your child call you out can be a bit intimidating! But making this a family issue, rather than just a parent correcting a child, can bring the whole family to a deeper level of kindness.
Like me, you may be surprised to discover just how often you are saying things that are unkind. In the end, both you and your child will find yourselves becoming more compassionate, less judgmental and a whole lot more careful about the words that come out of your mouth!
It’s working for me; I know it will work for you too!