When You’re Not Sure You Like the True You

Sitting on the deck in the dark of the night, I suddenly felt the urge to cover my face with my hoodie. My daughter had convinced me to take yet another personality test. The results…well they really weren’t that revealing.


Reading the traits out loud took me back to grade school. I could still hear my teacher say, “You need to be quieter…not so energetic.” He should’ve just said, “Lynn, be more like ____ and less like yourself.” (Wouldn’t he be shocked to see the introvert I display today!)


You’ve probably heard that phrase, “Just be yourself.”


I’ve even told myself this, especially when I’m getting ready to meet new people or walk into a situation where I feel awkward and uncomfortable. In other words, I can be insecure sometimes.


The problem with being the true me, I’ve thought, is what if they don’t like me? It’s not like I’ve made up this scenario in my mind. In fact, just yesterday, someone told me how I need to change my personality. Somethings in life just don’t change, even as we become adults.


So, I guess the real question is not will they like me but will I choose to like myself? Just the way God has made me.


God certainly has something to say about how I see myself and the way He has chosen to make me. In Romans 9:20, God says: But who are you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, “Why have you made me like this?” Romans 9:20 (ESV)


Here, God calls Himself the molder of me; the molder of you. As our Maker, He knew exactly what He was doing when He made me. As a child, I was talkative, energetic, even outspoken. He knew these were traits He would use along with the gifts He has given me. These traits, when honed by Him, would glorify Him.


The same is true for you. When He made you, He knew exactly what He was doing! He knew you needed to be extroverted or introverted, loud or quiet, really energetic, or low-key. God not only tells us to not question why He made us this way, but He goes on to say that He gets to tells us how He will use what He has made!


This is the true reason why we need to know, in the deepest parts of who we are, that He made us, that what He made is good and He will use what He made.


Friend, what if we let that truth be the basis for loving who we are? For when we receive God’s view of ourselves, it helps us see others in a new way… the way God sees them. 


John sums it up best. “We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 (NIV)


Let’s pray together, today, that Father will help us to love ourselves as He loves us and in turn, love others the way He has made them.


Father God, thank You for making me exactly the way you made me. Right now, I’m struggling with liking this part about myself: ___(fill in the blank)__. Help me see this part of me in a new way… very intentionally designed by You. Put people in my path today who need to know just how much they are loved for exactly who they are, too. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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Today, grab your journal and a pen and spend a few minutes alone with the Lord. List out a few qualities about yourself that you like, and thank God for them. Now, list out a few qualities about yourself that you wish were different. Ask the Lord to help you see these things as He sees them. I’d love to hear what He shows you!







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