Affirmation, attention and affection? What child doesn’t need the three A’s? What adult for that matter!
When kids are little, the three A’s are so easy! Constantly learning something new, it takes very little effort to add: “I’m so glad you learned to tie your shoes!”; affirming their daily growth.
They are willing to cuddle; even approach you first!
Their every action demands attention; a blink of the eye and they are gone! (Read the funniest story about kids on Lysa TerKeurst’s site!)
Now that my kids are 20, 17 and 14, the three A’s take a lot more effort, especially with the 20 year old! Some days, when they are struggling through these tough years, I struggle to find something to affirm. I have to work to not give only negative attention when I keep passing the room that’s a tsunami! I have to remember that just because she is taller than me, she still wants hugs and kisses from me!
I know that Jesus wants to help us give our kids what they need. Because of this, I think we should ask Him for triggers.
Little things that help us to slow down and remember to hug our child, kiss our child, text, twitter and Facebook our child! An alarm on our cell phone that reminds us to make a snack for our child while they do their homework. A “pinch” when picking up their coat or shoes to tell them we love them. A prompt to walk them to the door when they leave if only to give them a hug and a kiss good bye. A spark to set it all down, make eye contact and hear ALL the details of the day.
My daughter Madi came home from a whirlwind trip out of town last weekend…right during my favorite show! It was all I could do to turn it off and hear her 35 minute, blow by blow description. But you know what? I’ll never have that chance again. I was grateful to my Jesus for helping me to give my girl the attention she wanted!
One way we can give our girls attention they need is to spend time with them in God’s word and teach them to look for attention from Jesus!
Today I having an opportunity to win a give away. I am giving away two signed copies of my book His Revolutionary Love to one reader. Ask Jesus if He would have you carve out time to go through this book with your girl and maybe her best friend too! (She needs affirmation, attention and approval as well!) That’s the gift for your girl and for you I am giving away a copy of my CD message Building a Bridge to Your Child’s Heart.
To be entered into the give away, just share with me by clicking on the “comments” button below: which one does your child need from you most: affirmation, attention or affection. Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day which can be especially hard on teen girls. How can you communicate to your girl that you and Jesus are crazy about her?
Be sure to leave your email address so I can let you know who won! Stop back on Wednesday for my Wednesday Wisdom Tip when I will announce the winner!