Day 4: Lord, Make Me Patient
“How to Survive 6th Grade”; that was the title of the book my husband told me I to write. Not for kids, but for parents! While this transition year is hard on kids, 6th grade seems to hold the potential to drive any mom crazy. Are they also going to be this awkward? Why do they struggle to be comfortable in their own skin? Is my child going to make it?
It’s not just the adjustment that comes with moving to 6th grade. Preschool to kindergarten. Elementary to middle school. Middle school to high school. Passenger to driver. Chaperoned to more alone time.
These transitions of moving from dependence to independence carry the possibility for exciting and new as well as fear and anxiety.
In the middle of this movement there is a bit of awkwardness.
Our kids want to drive our car, but not mow the lawn. Stay out late, but not wake up early. Go to a friend’s to play, but not pick up their toys. Have a sleep over, but not make their bed.
So, which are they? Child? Adult?
Yes, they are both. They are in transition and so are we.
The older our kids become, the pressure and the consequences of their actions grow. And our heart can hover, like a helicopter at an emergency scene, trying to find a place to land to assess the damage. We want to help.
But more times than not, our place is not to lift them, but launch them.
Help them to get on their own.
Lord, grow in me patience. Patience to watch my child struggle in the cocoon of change, for here she will gain the strength to become what You call beautiful. Amen
What season of change have you come out of, are in or are going into? Why will patience be the fruit of the Spirit you will need in it?
Is your girl struggling with patience during this time in her life? Plan to go through Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants this summer and together allow God to grow the fruit of the Spirit in both of you!
COMPEL Training: Subconscious narrative, sticky statement, hook
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