“You don’t know what you’re asking.”
Have you ever wanted to say this to your child when the request they have is so big it teeters on crazy?
Jesus didn’t just think these words when the mom of James and John came to Him with her enormous request. He came right out and said it to her.
After sharing with His disciples that He would soon be killed, this mom decides to change the subject by asking Jesus for a favor:
Wow! That is one bold mom. She just asked Jesus to make her sons His favorites!
I have definitely been that bold, even begging mom, asking Jesus “to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine” in lives of my kids just like Ephesians 3:20 says.
But today, my prayers for my kids are challenged by this passage. I am stirred by the question Jesus poses to James and John’s mom. Not only do I hear Him asking “What do You want?”, but an even deeper question:”Why do you want that?”
When I am praying, asking God for great things in the lives of my children, what is my motive for wanting what I want for them?
My reflection takes me to one conclusion:
This mom and I might have something in common.
My requests are often positioned from pride.
I want my kids to succeed, to do great things in life, because I believe who they are and what they do is a reflection on me. I’ve made that terrible mistake of equating what they do to how I did as their mom.
My point today is not to encourage us to stop praying powerful prayers over our kids. They need us. It’s part of what we do as moms and as investors in the lives of the young people we influence.
But as we are praying bold, beautiful prayers, let’s keep a pulse on our hearts’ motives.
May we believe for God’s best in and for our kids for the sake of His kingdom and not for the glory of our own.