Finally, she was home! Finding me out on the patio, fresh in from college, I immediately started talking. So excited to have her home, I talked and talked and talked.
Finally, when I stopped for a moment, she spoke her words: I need to talk to you. It never occurred to me that she found me because she wanted to talk.
“I need to make a change.”
My girl made an important discovery in her life; something that as her mom I should not have missed.
How could I not have seen what my daughter of nearly twenty years was experiencing? Why didn’t I see the change?
Today, I was reading in 1 Chronicles 12 and discovered some men who didn’t fail to miss change.
Saul, the present king of Israel, had been killed. The people were choosing to anoint David as their new king. Many were rejoicing; others were struggling. Change isn’t always easy.
But of the men of Issachar the Bible tells us “All these men understood the signs of the times and knew the best course for Israel to take.”1 Chronicles 12:32 (NLT)
These men weren’t stuck in “what was”. They didn’t let their fear of the future cause them to ignore what was happening around them. They had insight and wisdom to know and recognize what was happening in their country; a new season was approaching. They grabbed onto the new and moved toward what was best for their country.
Sometimes, I think we miss “the signs of the times” because we are simply too busy. Our to-do list blocks us from seeing the indicators of change.
Our kids – they’re changing. Gaining independence, soaking in the culture, trying to figure out what they believe.
Our marriage – it’s moving. Less talk; more silence. Less time together; more time apart in the rush of life.
Our friends – they’re really struggling. But because of our own chaotic worlds, we miss seeing their tension.
We don’t have to miss the change.
We can be wise, like the men of Issachar. In companionship with the Holy Spirit, we can have our ears tuned to the Father and our eyes on our developing situations. As our world around us moves, we can discern what is happening. Leaning into the Lord, we can listen and discern the best course to take for us and for the important relationships around us.