From My Girl to Your Girl: Day #5 – The Power of Consistency

Day 5 of 5 | The Power of Consistency | From My Girl To Yours | #youandyourgirl series {June 2015} by Lynn & Madi Cowell


by Madi Cowell 

There isn’t a single time when I’m listening to ‘I Love You Lord’ by Elevation Worship, when my heart doesn’t drop and my eyes don’t well up with tears. I keep trying to figure out why this song gets me so emotional. I finally have realized why. The lyrics in the bridge say, “a love that will not let me go, my soul will rest in you alone.” Another song by my church has a lyric that says, “You have always been, You will always be.” So strong and so valuable, they explain the power of consistency.

I know the thing that has hurt me the most in my relationships with people is inconsistency. We are all human. Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”

It is so easy for our hearts to be completely wrapped up in people, especially when it comes to how much they care about us; our hearts can end up disappointed more than enough of the time. We can start to correlate all our value in how much attention we are receiving from the ones we love. People just don’t have what it takes to be that unshakable rock for us every single day; not a boy, father, mother, sister, best friend, coach, or teacher. They’re all human. Just like you and me, the people around us have off days as well.

So what do you do when they have an off day and you do too? If your value is placed in people, in their words and attention, you will quickly lose heart. It is disappointing when you see it’s impossible for them to please you every day. People are here one day and move away the next. Maybe you have experienced a girl being your best friend one day and hating you the next. You know how it can go.

So much comfort can be found in the One who remains the same through all the ups and downs.

In Matthew 8, Jesus is in the boat with his disciples. Jesus is asleep while his disciples are upstairs. Suddenly, a huge storm comes about and the disciples start panicking. They decide they need to go and find Jesus. They tell him to save them! Jesus responds saying, “Why are you afraid? You have so little faith! Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and suddenly there was a great calm” (Matthew 8:26). It was that simple.

We all want someone who is unchanging. We want someone we know will be there tomorrow, who will be there after a fight, and won’t look at us any differently after finding out our deepest secrets. Jesus is here for the long run, and I believe that is a trait we are all longing to find somewhere from someone or something. He is it.

Allow yourself to tune in to that small voice you hear calling and longing for you. Forget about the inconsistent moments from people in your life and fully invest your heart in the One who is unchanging. Then, you can start to experience the freedom that can occur when those bad memories are left behind and replaced with the One who is steadfast.

Madi and I have enjoyed bringing her writing to you this week. In fact, we’ve gotten such positive feedback, Madi will start writing regularly here until she heads off for college. Start looking for Mondays with Madi soon!

To celebrate all of the empowering that has happened this week, today we’re giving away a copy of  my book, “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. I love this book as I wrote while investing in a group of Madi’s friends. They test drove the material in order to help me creative a book that truly helps young women find powerful confidence found in Jesus.



To enter this drawing for Magnetic, please share below which of Madi’s posts was your favorite. (To read previous posts, just go to and click on “previous” in the blue box at the bottom).

If you’re busy, just say “I’m on!”. We’ll announce the winner on Monday. Thanks for inviting those you know who also have young women who need Jesus-confidence to enjoy these posts!

You can read all the June You and Your Girl series here.



  1. Paige Laine says:

    I refuse to pick a favorite. ..they were all wonderful!

  2. I’m in! How can I choose a favorite? They’ve all been good and challenge me to think! Thanks so much for sharing Madi with us!

  3. I have loved them all, but I think today’s post on consistency is my favorite for where my daughter is right now with her friendships. I cannot wait to hear her thoughts on today’s post! The others are so applicable too, and as it goes with life, each one will take its place as number one in time! Thank you so much!

  4. I have been so encouraged reading all of Madi’s posts this week. My daughter is 11 1/2 and I’m going to share them with her. I am so thankful for people out there who are willing to share. I would love to read your book “Magnetic.” I have been checking it out for some time. I’m in! #magnetic

  5. Valerie Blaha says:

    Although it is hard to pick a favorite, I really enjoyed the “I’m not weird”……..I love that confidence to be different and stand true to her beliefs. And I look forward to reading Monday with Madi. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us, and also for sharing your daughter with us so that we can learn more for OUR daughters.

  6. Congratulations, Mama Lynn, Madi has done a super job this week. I have so enjoyed reading all that she shared from her heart. Madi, will be praying for you as you go off to college. Praying that God will lead you into building relationships with others that need to know truth and grace. Would love to read Magnetic with my 16 year old daughter, my baby. Thank you again for sharing all week, Looking forward to Madi Mondays . . .

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Dot – thank you so much for praying for Madi! We went to orientation on Friday and she is so excited to start this new season of her life. I’ll miss her so much, but I can’t wait to watch her fly!

  7. Thank you Madi, I was blown away by your devotions. I’m 42 and glad to be able to learn from the younger generation. My daughter is ten and although she may not be ready to talk about “boy things” yet, I’m so glad I have a source I can go to to help prepare me for that time. Each one of them spoke to me. They were all so powerful. If I were to chose one I would choose “why you should let your guard down”.

  8. Jean Wold says:

    Madi has her mother’s wisdom and gift for words. Thanks for sharing with us this week. While I agree that it’s difficult to pick a favorite, I can especially relate to; From My Girl to Your Girl: Day #3 – Why You Should Let Your Guard Down. It’s a reminder that most of have “pasts and they can be used for good.

  9. Day 2 “You’re Not Weird” However, I’ve liked them all! They have even been timely for me, a mom of 3 teenage girls. Thank you for your ministry!

  10. Thank you Madi for sharing. And thank you Lynn for sharing Madi with us. It’s been great to share these emails with my daughters.

  11. Thank you Madi for sharing! I honestly enjoyed all your posts! God bless you! Thanks for allowing God to use you to minister! Let me encourage you to allow God to keep using you to serve Him!

  12. This one was fantastic! Not sure who got more from it, me or my daughters! Thank you!

  13. I can’t pick a favorite either. They have all been very well written, honest and thought provoking. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. I look forward to reading more.

  14. Mona Bolous says:

    Today’s is powerful for me

  15. I have to say that this is my favorite. I have someone very close to me that I see running into the arms of man after man trying to find something. Just yesterday this is what I tested her, ” You can only run into so many pairs of arms until you find that the only one that can and will hold, all of who you are, is God. Then you will have the love you have longed for and enough love to share with someone else.” Today’s post will be sent to this friend and I ask for your prayers that she will give her life to God, and experience true and everlasting love.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Lord, we pray for Makeshia’s friend. May she find you to be the true filler of her love gap! Amen!

  16. I’ve loved all of Madi’s posts, and can relate to her insomnia. Thank you, Madi, for sharing how you run to the only One Who can fill your heart! I’d love to be in the drawing for the book!

  17. I’m in! I just started reading your posts, this was on target for my 13 year old as she is learning the inconsistency of navigating teenage friendships, and standing on her faith. Thank you for being an encouragement to us both.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Cheryl, I hope in the future Madi’s posts will empower your girl to keep following Jesus through these murky waters of the teen years and mine will encourage you as her mom!

  18. Susan Gruener says:

    They were all fantastic! Such a gift she has. I thought the post that had this quote at the beginning was very powerful “Don’t be afraid to own your past, God gave you a story for a reason.” This will resonate with many! Also today’s post was awesome and I also kept this quote “So much comfort can be found in the One who remains the same through all the ups and downs.”
    What’s amazing about Madi’s writings is she’s young and so much of her writings and thoughts will touch many young women…but, I’m a grandma and I took a lot of this for myself… Her wisdom is for women of all ages!
    Blessings to you both!

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      I am so glad you liked Madi’s posts, Susan!

  19. nancys1128 says:

    Can’t wait to read her posts on Mondays. As for a fave from this week, I can’t possibly pick one – they were all awesome. So much insight for someone not through their teen years yet! Keep up the great work mom &idadisagree, and keep up the great sharing Madi!

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Thank you so much for your encouragement, Nancy!

  20. I loved this one, I have a 23 year old daughter who sometimes I let down. She is really going through some storms but she is drawing near to Him. Although she is in pain she is really leaning on Him and that brings peace.

  21. Dear Madi ~ Thank you so much for revealing your heart…you have touched my daughter’s heart…. As well as mine. I pray God’s great blessing upon you and that you will touch many more hearts…more than you will ever know. Thank you for touching ours. God bless you and your future!

  22. Wonderful points! I’m in! Thank you for your devotion.

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