Getting the Confidence You Wish You Had

Confidence doesn’t come from doing everything right or having it all together. Confidence comes from knowing we are loved. Jesus gave it; we receive it. -


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Could you relate to my opening paragraph in today’s devotion? You’ve seen a woman, obviously confident, comfortable with herself and you’ve thought, I want to be like that. I want confidence.

I used to think either you had confidence or you didn’t. Maybe like being an extrovert or an introvert, confidence was something you were born with.

I no longer think so.

It sounds weird for me to say, “I became confident when …” Is that cocky to say?

I think it would be or could be depending on how I finish the sentence.

If the next words had anything to do with me, it would be downright prideful.

But it doesn’t.

Like the “sinful woman” described in Luke 7:37-38, confidence came in my life as result of experiencing love. Unconditional love. The type of love that swept in and helped me get out of bed when I was sad this week. The type of love that doesn’t look down on me, tell me I’m weak or I just need to push through and get through.

His love, Jesus’ love for me, is the love that gives me the confidence I need to live each day when living is hard. When the things we have built our confidence on in the past are gone, swept away before we could grab them and hold on to them.

His love is where we get the confidence we have always longed for. 

The woman in the gospel of Luke encountered unconditional love and it gave her the confidence to push past rejection.

His love can and will do the same in us, if we will open our hearts, become vulnerable and allow Him into every crevice of our souls. Even the painful or dark places.

This woman, the one who was brave enough to walk into a room of powerful men to anoint Jesus’ feet with oil, knew she was wanted. Jesus cared about her and for her. She had encountered Him. Seen love in His eyes. Witnessed the way He cared for others and she allowed that kindness to reach in and completely change her.

Love empowered her.

His love, can and will empower us, too, my friend!

Like the woman, though, we have to encounter that Love. We have to spend time with Him, getting to know Him and opening our heart through prayer and worship, to Him. He will come, meeting you exactly where you are, and bring His transforming love with Him.

I share my story of how His love transformed me as well as walk you through discovering this love in my book, “His Revolutionary Love: Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You”.  I wrote this book for young woman to know He is the love each and every one of us is looking and longing for. Maybe this is just the resource you need to find the confidence you’ve been looking for.

I hope you’ll choose to sign up and join me each week for my Wednesday Wisdom Tips. Together, let’s dig deeper into His love and find this confidence we long for.




  1. Oh how I have longed all my life for the confidence I have seen in others. I know the way you grow up has an impact on this and I wish, to some degree, my upbringing had included God to the fullest in my life instead of part-time (summers when we went to see our grandparents!) I feel things would have turned out differently for me. But at the same time, everything I have gone through has somewhat made me into the person I am. Still flawed and still searching for the love of God I so truly desire. Your book sounds like it’s right up my alley to purchase and read.

    Thank you for this post today.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      I love the truth you shared, Shasta. All of the things we do go through make us the brave, strong women we are becoming!

  2. Ok, is there another book geared more towards adult women? I see that book is for teen girls.

    1. Lynn Cowell says:

      Yes, Shasta! I highly recommend Renee Swope’s book “A Confident Heart”!

  3. The thing that tugged at my heart in the verses you shared was that she lived a sinful life. The verse didn’t put it next the past tense and say she “had lived”‘ a sinful life, the tense seems to be present progressive. It seems Jesus didn’t wait for her to get her act together before loving her unconditionally 🙂 God’s love is big!

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