She Makes It Look Easy, a novel just released today by Marybeth Whalen, was an added bonus to my already great Memorial Day weekend. In this can’t-put-it-down novel, Ariel Baxter has just moved into the neighborhood of her dreams. The chaos of domestic life and the loneliness of motherhood, however, moved with her. Then she meets her neighbor, Justine Miller. Justine ushers Ariel into a world of clutter-free houses, fresh-baked bread, homemade crafts, neighborhood playdates, and organization techniques designed to make marriage better and parenting manageable.
Soon Ariel realizes there is hope for peace, friendship, and clean kitchen counters. But when rumors start to circulate about Justine’s real home life, Ariel must choose whether to believe the best about the friend she admires or consider the possibility that “perfection” isn’t always what it seems to be.
She Makes It Look Easy is a book for every woman who has looked at another woman’s life and said, “I want what she has,” She Makes It Look Easy reminds us of the danger of pedestals and the beauty of authentic friendship.
For me, there was an added dimension. It caused me to take a close look at the words that can slip out of my heart and all too quickly into the heart of my girls. Words of comparison: “I wish I had a housecleaner like her.” “Wouldn’t life be more simple if I had her schedule?” “I’d really like to get my nails done like she does.” When comparing my life to another, there is always the temptation to believe someone has it better than we do.
When we compare our bodies, our homes, our families what does it leave our daughters to believe?
As a young mother, comparison was my vice. “I wish my kids would behave like her’s.” “If only I was quiet and gentle like she is; I wish I was more feminine.” Always picking at myself; looking for areas to improve. The problem was I was always looking to myself to do the improving rather than asking the Lord for His opinion and His refining.
Overcoming comparison for me began in my mind. I began to believe the truth that God really did love me just the way I was and I could love me too!
As moms, let’s stop the thoughts we think of comparison. For if we never think the thoughts, we’ll never say the words. Then, we can go a step further and begin to speak truth about yourselves and our girls.
In His Revolutionary Love I share this truth with girls:
“Christians may talk a lot about beauty on the inside, but that isn’t the only beauty God sees. He sees us as beautiful on on the outside too! ….In Psalm 45:11 the picture is of the king being “enthralled by your beauty.” Jesus is enthralled by the beauty of you! The Hebrew word for beauty in Psalm 45:11 is the same word used in Esther 1:11 to describe the queen, saying she was “lovely to look at” (Hebrew-Greek Key Word Study Bible, p. 1949)…Jesus also knows that it is important to us to feel beautiful. That’s another reason for us to take in the truth of how he sees us. Our hearts and minds long for someone to look at us and believe we are gorgeous. Our creator does!” p. 48 – 49
Is this truth that you and your girl would benefit from soaking in? If so, join us for the online Bible Study of “His Revolutionary Love” beginning June 13th. Just put your email in the box above for the updates and join the conversation on FaceBook at Lynn Cowell’s Online Bible Studies. It’s going to be great!
Today, I am giving away my friend, Marybeth’s novels: a signed copy of her first book The Mailbox as well as a copy of her latest She Makes It Look So Easy. To sign up to win, simply share in the comments below one area that you think women most struggle with when it comes to comparison! Be sure to stop back by on Friday to see our winner and we’ll talk about the comparison illusion!
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