In the Know – How Far is Too Far?

The big box sits on the stage just waiting to be filled. At my “Revolutionary Love” conferences, girls have the opportunity to write out any question they want. Later in the conference, taking the questions out of the box, I attempt to answer the questions looming in their hearts and minds.

“How far is too far?” is a sure question at every event. Every event. So, if you haven’t had this conversation with your teen, know that they are asking it. The question is who are they asking?

Hiking Bryce Canyon in Utah, my family was coming to the end of a seven mile hike with our kids ages 11, 9 and 6. I pulled to the front, turned around and began walking backward, encouraging the weary ones with my hands and voice. “Keep going! Don’t give up!” No matter what I may have told my kids when they were little, I really don’t have eyes in the back of my head. Since I was walking backwards I slipped off the edge, sliding down the sandy precipice Hooking my forearms on the edge of the path, I clung, waiting for my husband to come to my rescue!

Is that where are kids are when they are dating? Hanging from the cliff side, asking God to come to their rescue?

“How far is too far?” is really the wrong question. The real question is “How close can I get to God so I don’t fall off the edge?”

For those who need me to be more direct, I tell the girls, “If you wouldn’t do it in front of your dad, why would you be comfortable doing it in front of Father God? If you keep it on the face; face to face, you’ll be likely to not go where you shouldn’t go.”

If you have had this conversation with your teen, great! Make sure to reiterate it often! If you haven’t, here’s your ammo. Plan a drive in the car (avoiding eye contact sure helps in these types of conversations!) and let your teen know you care about this area of his life!

Would you more tips on investing in your teen? Join my daughter and I in the DC area this weekend at the “Beautifully and Wonderfully Made” conference. For more details: I would love the opportunity to meet you in person!

Happy Wednesday!



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