My prayer this morning:
“Jesus, you know I am taking Mariah and Madi shopping tonight. PLEASE HELP US! There are stores I don’t like that they do. There are fashions I don’t approve of that they are attracted to. Help me to not judge. To talk less and listen more and give me patience and wisdom and please help us not to fight. Amen”
Ever been there? So many areas for our girls to want to be like everyone else; so many areas where we want them to be set apart. How do we handle living in this world, but not being in it?
Romans 12:2 tells us, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (NLT)
When our daughters are young, it is easier to call the shots, telling them what they will wear, where they will go and what they will do. But if we continue this pattern as they grow up, they will not learn to discern what is wise and what is not. As early as possible, we can begin to point out contrasts between what culture says is right and how our God calls us to be set apart.
The challenge comes in teaching without preaching. I have found for me and my girls the best delivery comes in the form of conversation.
“What do you think?” is a terrific conversation opener. What girl doesn’t want to give her opinion!
I try to show my kids I value their opinion. It matters and if that opinion lines up with God’s word, I get to reinforce it. If it does not, it gives me the opportunity, using God’s word, to show them His way and the blessings that follow when we follow His way.
What areas do you find in your home where you are trying to live in the world, but not of it?