The greenway was the location of my walk last night with my two girls. Mariah and Madi are definitely my best sources of information when it comes to what we need to know to be wise. I asked them, ‘Tomorrow is my Wednesday Wisdom Tip” day; what do moms need to know?” They both started spitting out tons of information. We’ll cover them over the next few weeks, but today, I’ll go with the wisdom from my 17 year old:
Don’t be naive about the “good” kids in your kids lives: beware.
Is your child dating a “good, Christian” boy or girl? Don’t underestimate the power of temptation.
Often our kids meet their “good” Christian girlfriend or boyfriend at church, youth group or camp. While I am not saying that they aren’t good, I am saying they are human! Infatuation is like a drug; dulling our kids of the ways they have been taught. Under it’s influence they can forget the abstinence pledges and sex talks we have had.
As wise mothers we need to set boundaries in place and do so from the beginning.
Take it from a mama who didn’t. When my son first started dating, I was just coming out of homeschooling for seven years. Since he was my oldest and our lives revolved around church, I was a bit naive about the culture. When he and his girlfriend started seeing each other every day, we knew it wasn’t good and worked quick to pull in the reins. That didn’t go over so good!
Put boundaries in place before they start dating. It is much easier to set rules in place and say this is how things are going to be then to try to reverse what has already gone on.
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Don’t be naive; don’t tell yourself, “He’s a good boy he wouldn’t do that”. “She loves Jesus, she wouldn’t go there.” Instead, mom, be honest and remind yourself, “They are human.” Ask Jesus to give you the discernment you need and put the boundaries in place.
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Be wise my friends!