Mom, God has given you influence to impact your daughter’s views on guys, girls and God. The way this influence comes is through conversation.
This is not a “once and done” conversation; like your mom and the sex talk. These conversations need to be on going; the talk that never wraps up. Weaving into our every day lives, these talks begin by listening. Really listening. The type where your eyes are engaged, your hands are still and your body language says, “I’m listening.”
My daughter knows the difference. Just Sunday night she asked me while we were talking, “Am I annoying you?” “Why?” I responded. “Because your body says I am.” (Never try to pull one over on a teen)!
One of my favorite ways to have these powerful conversations is having girl dates. Day trips, car rides, cooking or yard work together. I’m intentional to set aside time to talk – after school, before bed or on Sunday afternoons. One of my daughters doesn’t open up until we’ve been together a long time…I’m talking hours. When she tweeted this from college this week, it warmed my heart:
Whether you have a daughter who talks none stop or one who is quiet and doesn’t open up, I have a free resource to help. Get these important conversations rolling. Just go to my website at www.LynnCowell.com and click on “freebies”. There you will find lots of free resources to help you in investing in your girl. The one I want you to look for is “Conversation Starters”. These starters are the matches that can help you begin the fire of conversations that will help you to empower your girl with confidence leading her to make wise choices. Here are a few of them:
If you had 24 hours to live, how would you spend it?
What are the three favorite things you have done so far in life?
What is the thing you are most afraid of?
Print out these conversation starters and put them in a cute jar or pretty vase. Set up a time: on the way to school, when she gets home from school or before bed to pull out one of these questions and talk away!
The important thing, is begin talking when they’re young about everything and as they grow up, keep talking. Make your heart and your home your child’s safest place!
What are some of the ways you encourage conversation in your family?