Maybe you have overcome this hurdle of often going at life alone. I struggle overcoming this tendency. Maybe it has something to do with growing up as the seventh child of eight. That’s me with the crossed arms. See what I mean. My face and posture scream, “I don’t need you!”
I could try to blame my independence on that.
Really, in most cases, my going solo just comes down to my ugly pride. Even as a little girl, I once fell down a whole flight of cement stairs, blackening my eye, because I was too prideful to wait for help. All through my life, I have stories of more “black eyes” that came from wanting to do life alone. I wish they were all as easy to heal as my bruised skin.
Pride holds us back from allowing others to see our weaknesses and the areas where we need help.
And no place is this more true then when it comes to our relationships. Family troubles, work issues and neighborhood dilemmas can quickly make us feel like failures when exposed to others.
I love how God’s word tears down the lie that we are better off alone:
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)
I read on my friend Zoe Elmore’s Twitter today, “Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.” – Helen Keller
It’s not easy being vulnerable; admitting we have needs for relationship and support. But if we will choose to take that first step, make the first call or type the first text, we will find it’s not quite so hard the next time. And when our heart experiences the joy and support of having another share in our trials and times of joy, we’ll be a bit more willing to take the risk again.
God gave us each other to lift each other up, especially when we are down. And as God’s girls, when we model true friendships, where unconditional love and grace are freely given without judgement, the next generation of God’s girls will see the gift God has given us in each other. They, too, can learn to get beyond Facebook friends.
Today, I am giving away five copies of my message, “Beyond Facebook Friends” which I share with teen girls and their moms at my “His Revolutionary Love” conferences. To be entered for a chance to win one of these CD’s, share with us the thing you love most about your closest friend. As we read the comments, together we can learn what it takes to be a good friend too! If you’re super busy, just comment, “I’m in!”
I’ll announce the winner Friday, when my great friend since childhood guest posts for me!