Wednesday Wisdom Tip – Keep Parts a Secret




Getting deeper and deeper into my tale, I lead my girls right up to the climax. “And right when I was sure that he was going to ask me out…”

Then I stop. I wait. Soon they’ll start asking, “Well, did he? Don’t stop now!”

Guard Your Heart

That is exactly the reaction we want when using this wisdom tip with our kids. Looking for a way to share the power of holding a little bit back in a relationship, we keep parts of our story a secret.

As a young girl, as soon as I had a boy’s ear I would go on and on, spilling all of my heart as quick as I could. Hours upon hours were spent on the phone together…the first time he called. I was just so excited that somebody wanted me; I just couldn’t wait for him to know all of me!

No one ever told me: don’t dump all of your heart and mind at once. Keeping bits of yourself a secret protects your heart.

Dangerous Intimacy

Our girls need to know that emotional intimacy can be as dangerous as physical intimacy. When we expose all of our heart to one who is not committed to spending the rest of their lives with us, leaves us vulnerable. Like being caught in a snowball fight with no gloves, our girls can find themselves exposed when down the road the relationship doesn’t work out.

So often when our heart is fully engaged it is just a matter of time before the rest of us is engaged as well; our bodies often follow our hearts. Our girls need to know that they will never have a more important mission than guarding their heart.

When I held back the best part of my story, I held my girls attention. I want them to do the same. Hold a little back; make a guy know that the best is yet to come.

Did anyone ever share with you to “hold a little bit back”? How are some additional ways we can teach our children to protect their hearts?

The winner of Tracey Finck’s book “Love Letters to a Child” is Christina Anguiano! Congratulations Christina! Please email me at [email protected] and I’ll get it right out to you. Be sure to stop by back on Friday. I’ll be giving away a copy of Glynnis Whitwer’s new book “I Used to Be So Organized”!





  1. Betty Kreinbring says:

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful advice. I would have loved to have that when I was a teen.

    1. It’s not too late for us to share with those coming after us, Betty! Please be sure to pass along to those you know who have teens in their lives 🙂

  2. Virginia Albrecht says:

    I love this, Thank you for sharing. I posted it on my facebook page for other mothers to read also. I will share it with my daughter. We have already been thru this once, where she shared her heart, and later on the boy is gone, and took a bit of that heart with him..


    1. Thanks for sharing Virginia. Yes…we went through this with my son as well. I hope my girls are wiser.

      Thank you SO much for sharing this on your FB page. As moms, we can make a difference in the lives of those coming after us!

      In my book, “His Revolutionary Love” I go into this in more depth. It would really help in the healing of your girl’s heart 🙂

  3. Stephanie McCormick says:

    Oh, I just think of how many times I gave so much of myself away…. and now that I am a mother of 2 girls and 1 boy, I so hope to teach them this powerful lesson. I appreciate the wisdom and sharing. Thank you thank you thank you.


    1. Most of us did, Stephanie! Thank you Jesus for empowering us with truth and wisdom to give to our kids!

  4. This is so profound to me! I have never thought of teaching this to my 11 year old daughter. I cant wait to talk to her about it. I will share this on
    my facebook as well…

    1. Thanks so much Staci…and thanks for sharing the word on Facebook. I hope to grow our group of women becoming wise and raising wiser daughters!

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