Her shoulders sag. Her eyes are dull. A tear appears in the corner. The problem? He doesn’t like her.
Here’s the secret she needs to know: if a guy doesn’t like her, it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with her!
What it most likely means is that your girl and the guy she likes are different; possibly in very different places in their lives in maturity.
I had a huge crush on my husband starting in 6th grade and it lasted for seven years! You know how old he was when he finally got serious about asking me out? Twenty-one! Twenty-one! That is how long it took for him to want the type of girl that I was; that type of girl who was serious about honoring God.
During these teen years, most guys have one thing on their mind…and it isn’t sports! This isn’t the type of guy we want for our girls. Help your girl by asking some questions about the guy she likes.
Do you have a lot in common?
Are his values your values?
How does he spend his time each day?
What type of girl does he seem to be attracted to?
By answering a few of these questions, she may be able to figure out why this boy isn’t running after her. She may not like the answer, but at least she will not blame herself if it really isn’t about her!
What you want to do is help your daughter become a magnet.
Ask your girl what type of guy she wants to attract. Hopefully it will be a guy, who honors and fears God, knows his place in God’s family and a guy who will one day understand how to unconditionally love your daughter and lead her closer to God. Point out to your girl that if she wants to attract this type of guy, she will have to be this type of girl.
We help our daughters become that magnet when we spend time in the Word with them; pointing out to them magnetic characteristics such as love, confidence, and unselfishness.
I do this in two ways.
Each day while they eat their breakfast, I read God’s word to them (I figure I have a captive audience!).
Second, I pick out a study that we do together with their friends. (Right now, we are going through “His Revolutionary Love”). As I read God’s word with them, I am very intentional about pointing out that we are filling our hearts with truth so that our joy will be built around Him and not around a boy.
This is working in my life; I can’t wait to hear how it works in your’s! How do you handle rejection with your child?
Our winner from yesterday’s give away of the CD “Building a Bridge to Your Child’s Heart” and the Starbucks gift card is Jennifer Klemple. Jennifer, please send me your full name and address to Lynn@LynnCowell.com and I’ll get it right out to you!