I recently took a strength finders test. I wasn’t all that surprised to find my top two strengths were belief and responsibility. The part that I didn’t like was discovering what the book politely called my “basement” qualities. How nice 🙂
Here’s a short list of what those basement qualities include:
* stubborn (ok…so my husband has been right for 25 years!)
* set in my ways
* unaccepting of other ideas
Enough already…let’s stop there!
What is clear that one thing this mom needs is humility. As my daughter, Madi reminded me yesterday (as she practiced driving with that new permit!) “There is nothing attractive about pride!” Wow…did she hit it home!
When I get in the revolving door of humility, I am changed from “I can do it all” super mom to “I can do all things through Christ” power mom. A place where each day, each minute, I am dependent to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit directing me to live out His fruits…His actions.
Humility shifts me from being right to doing right.
The truly powerful mom can say:
“Please forgive me.”
And it is here that she builds true relationship that opens the doors for her to be the kind of mom her kids need.
How about you? Like me, do you struggle saying words like “I’m sorry, you’re right or please forgive me” to your kids? Do you agree or do you think that as moms these types of words make us seem to be human door mats?
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I don’t think it makes us seem as doormats, we’re human, we make mistakes. How foolish to try to kid ourselves and our children that we don’t do things wrong sometimes. I often tell my children (son, 12; daughter nearly 10) that I’m wrong and to ask their forgiveness over something. How can I expect them to admit to being wrong when I can’t myself?
I know my being able to be a mum each and every day comes from my Lord and Saviour. I have to trust Him the way I want my children to trust Him.
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13
linda nolan says
how freeing it feels to know we are not perfect and to admit are mistakes to god and to man thank god for the holy spirit who guids and helps us and thank you god bless linda x
Lynn Cowell says
It is so much different then when we were growing up, isn’t Sam? My girl reminded me the other day of the saying, “Do as I say not as I do”. We both agreed…dumb saying!
Definitely Lynn, I remember a reading in Our Daily Bread when I was a teen and I often think of the tag line for it which said; Jesus says; do as I say AND do! He is the perfect example to us all and we all have so far to go in reaching His standard that none of us can look down on another – we all might as well admit it – we’re not perfect!
Deena Burnham says
Thank you Lynn, This was were I was today.
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Lynn Cowell says
I love your heart, Deena! You are always looking to grow! You inspire me 🙂
Yessss…..the real breakthrough times come with humble honesty and ability to change…and admit to kids. Hard but true 🙂 Looking forward to your book!
Definitely not doormats. Authentic, humble, REAL, imperfect people.
I think it is a positive thing for us to show respect in certain ways to our kids. It shows them that we too are human and we make mistakes. I try to always remember to apologize if I become “unglued” mom with my kids letting them know that the way I acted was not acceptable. We can become frustrated, upset and short, but we should not take it out on them in a negative way. Telling them that we are sorry opens the door for them to come and apologize when they have been disrespectful, frustrated, or upset by our rules. I have found it a very good thing to do. If we explain things to them after they are being disciplined, I believe they have a much more respect for us. If we always claim to be right and have it all together it portrays do as I say not as I do mentality. I would much rather them be humble and sorry than bitter.
Do you have a link to that strengths test? Thanks!
It is a book called Strength Finders. When you buy the book, they give you a code to a link where you can take the test. Hope that helps!