“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.” Proverbs 20:5 (NIV)
There are two kinds of women who live in my house. One speaks her mind freely; you don’t have to guess where she stands or how she feels. There’s also the more reserved girl; holding the deepest parts of her tight, she keeps her emotions, all of them, in check.
Neither girl is right or wrong. Both are deep thinkers; deep feelers. Yet my girls couldn’t be more different when it comes to how those thoughts and emotions are expressed. With one, I have a sense of her constant pulse as she daily shares her joys and struggles. With the other…well, as my mother used to say about my father, “Still waters run deep.”
The writer of Proverbs in today’s key verse encourages us to make the effort to “draw out” those who take more effort to understand. As I have found with my daughter, there is so much beauty and young wisdom in her deep well of a heart. And while it takes extra effort to tap into that low laying spring, the effort is often rewarded.
In a culture where our conversations are capped at 140 characters on Twitter, the deep need for real conversation may be in jeopardy. Yet God’s word tells us a person’s heart is deep waters – not something short and concise that can be summed up in a Facebook status.
We need moments of unhurried time with our daughters where we can express our hearts, but more importantly, where we can draw out the heart of each another. We need time when we can listen to the wisdom and work God is doing in each other’s lives. These type of conversations usually don’t develop in the quick greeting, “How are you?” but more often in the intentional moments when we purpose to listen.
In the original Hebrew language the Old Testament was written in, “purposes” in this verse means advice, counsel, plan. When we take the time to draw out another, it is good for them. When we verbalize the purposes God has given us, we are encouraged to carry on in those callings and activities that honor Him.
Drawing out another or engaging in purposeful conversation is also good for us as we gain insight, wisdom, hope and encouragement when we listen to all God is doing in the heart of another. We can receive advice and counsel simply by listening to all God is doing in another person.
Stop right now and look at your calendar. Pick a time – tonight, tomorrow or this weekend, and invite someone dear to you to spend time with you. Is it your daughter, whose life resembles a tornado, spinning in and out of your home? Get your calendars together and make time now.
I won’t be responding to comments this week as I am enjoying time now with my family on spring break! Enjoy your’s!
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