Have you read my current Proverbs 31 devotion Worth the Effort? If you haven’t, click here to read what in our life is worth the effort. Be sure to come back!
If your house is anything like the Cowell house, you have all types of personalities that call it home.
The non-stop talker.
The quiet one.
The peace maker.
In order to have real relationship with each one, we have to find the way each one relates and for some, this process may require more effort than others.
I am learning that whatever effort it takes, it is worth that effort.
Proverbs 20:5 tells us “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
Conversations that draws out this “deep water” in a heart only happens in unhurried moments. Moments when we stop the ferris wheel of life, make eye contact and with our time and attention we communicate we truly care. We say we want to know what is truly in a person’s heart. The gift of choosing to be distraction free when another speaks says loud and clear, “You matter. You, and only you, are what is important at this moment.”
This time may come when the car pulls in the garage and so does the day’s frustrations.
This moment may be after school, when the book bag drops and so do the tears.
Your effort may be needed when the silence is louder than any words could be.
And it is during this time that we need to shut our world down and enter their’s…with all our heart.
The tough part comes in the next step…the drawing out.
Does the one you love want you to simply listen? Is a hug the very thing needed? A word of encouragement? A little guidance?
Breathe deep, whisper a prayer to the Holy Spirit for wisdom and be sensitive. The fact that you are giving of yourself may be all your loved one needs.
I know some days I need some help in starting these “deep” conversations. That’s why I created The Convo Creator;40 Days to a Better Relationship. These free conversation starters are the door openers to conversations that can help us to draw out the deep waters in those we love. Be sure to download your copy! Just click on the “freebies” tab at www.LynnCowell.com.
Who do you need to make time for a heart-to-heart with today? Is your loved one the non-stop talker or the quiet type? Please share! From those who share today, one random commenter will receive a copy of my CD message, “Building a Bridge to Your Child’s Heart”.