Putting away the laundry this morning, I was tempted to return them to my shelve. When I heard the voice from this weekend.
“Mom, you need some new jeans.”
Really? I had thought these ones were in.
When I asked why, I was informed that “bling” is still in…just not for women my age!
I’m so tempted to disregard my girls’ comments.
See, I’m a very frugal person and spending money to keep up on trends is just something I’m not really into.
Yet yesterday I was reminded at The MOB Society, my kids care about my appearance. It’s not so much about having a wardrobe that is “in” this season or “out” next. (My girls are more than fine when I’m wearing my Levi’s, worn-out sweatshirt and hiking boots).
It has more to do with how my kids feel about me…their mom.
I can hear some of you now,
“Aren’t you taking that a bit too far? They’re the kids; we’re the adults!”
For me the real questions are:
Do I want my kids to want to introduce me to their friend?
Do I want my child to be embarrassed of me?
Does my appearance say that I am aware of the current culture or am I stuck in a time warp? (Because if my clothes are stuck, maybe my beliefs are too! Not that they would verbalize that, but you just never know where the mind will go!)
In the past, I have gotten around “being in style” one way; I take my girls with me when I shop or I ask them questions when I get home.
Is this too old for me?
Is this too young?
Too big? Too tight? Just plain ugly? (Smile)
When I do, I don’t just gain the opportunity to be a more “in” mom, I gain another level of relationship. I’ve asked their opinion and that makes them feel valued.
Ask your girl today how she feels about your appearance. She might just drop over because you asked!
PS…anybody want some bling bling jeans? 🙂