Can Anyone Really Know You?


“Isn’t it weird and sad to think that no will ever really know me? No one will ever know everything I think and all the depth of the feelings I feel?” Her teary eyes revealed the depth of her thoughts.

I wasn’t quite sure what to say; my daughter was right. Proverbs 14: 10 says “Each heart knows its own bitterness,
and no one else can share its joy.” In Wednesday’s post we talked about finding a “soul mate”; that one person who “completes” you. Truth is, as Solomon said, each heart only knows their own heart.

But that’s not the end…

As the created, we are limited by our insights and understanding. Not only do we desire to be known deeply, but we want to know another. The limitations of our own senses, ability to listen and understand another’s mind and heart hold us back.

But it will not always be so! At the end of the chapter giving the full description of perfect love – the ultimate expression of being known – we are comforted with these words:  “Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” 1 Corinthians 13:12b (NIV)

Fully known; how wonderful! In the original Greek language this is a combination of two words which mean when + come to know. One day, we will have both! We will be able to fully know and understand each other. The biggest revelation will be fully and knowing God as He already completely knows us. This deep desire will finally be fully met.

We need to be aware of our need to be known, for it is deep. It can bring us great joy as we open our hearts to healthy and safe relationships. It can also bring great pain if not monitored or controlled. It can drive us to expose our hearts, and even our bodies, in relationships that are not for our best; possibly not honoring Jesus. Instead of feeling known, we can come away damaged and feeling exposed.

What a powerful truth for us to grasp and pass on to our girls. I was never so glad to share with my girl that she is completely and fully known by the one who created her. He says to her and He says to us: “Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders.” Deuteronomy 33:12 Ahhh…

Has this deep desire to be known been a factor in your life and in your relationships? Has it caused undue pressure on those who are not capable of knowing you fully? I’d love to hear your story of how you are working through this in your life.

Let’s dialogue with the young women in our lives, teaching them to take this desire and place on the One who can truly fulfill it!


Need help expressing this truth to your girl? “His Revolutionary Love” teaches young women that the love they have been looking for has already been loving them!



  1. ”Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders.” …is this a Bible verse? I’d love to know where it is if so!

    1. Yes it is! Deuteronomy 33:12

  2. These words fall sweetly upon my heart and soothe me today. Words I so desperately needed to hear. Thank you Lynn for your bold sweetness in writing truth. Peace to you.

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