From My Girl to Your Girl: Day #3 – Why You Should Let Your Guard Down

Day 3 of 5 | Why You Should Let Your Guard Down | From My Girl To Yours | #youandyourgirl series {June 2015} by Lynn & Madi Cowell


By: Madi Cowell

Vulnerable: capable or susceptible to being wounded or hurt


When I read this definition,  I felt a small pit in my stomach. Maybe for you when you read this word a flashback was created.


     What if there was someway that we could take this sometimes painful word and use it for our benefit?


As young ladies we’ve been taught to never be vulnerable, to not invest or attach ourselves to someone too quickly and be careful who we let in. Our parents told us this because they didn’t want us to get hurt. Don’t get me wrong; the Bible tells us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23). That is some of the best advice out there.


I can admit from my own personal experiences that when we are made a fool of once, we don’t want it to happen again. We opened our heart up to someone or something and had it thrown back in our faces. I can see that God allows us to experience wounding and painful stories so that we can go and touch others, but we never will be able to if we let the idea of being vulnerable fill us with fear.

I have had multiple experiences in my life where I have gotten hurt from relationships, but did not deal with the pain until much later. The pain does not go away. If anything it just comes back later when you think you may be getting better. Then the hurt hits you even harder. Sometimes what seems easier in the moment is to shut out all the pain we feel, but the repercussion is ultimately a greater pain.

I have met so many beautiful girls with such broken stories, and these stories have made them the incredible girls they are today.

     Don’t be afraid to own your past.
     Don’t be ashamed or feel guilty.
     God gave you a story for a reason.


Hold your head up high knowing that He is molding you into who He wants you to be.


Every time we are hurt, we can either view it as a sorrowful moment, or we can see it as another great time that God can continue to design our hearts. Use your times of pain to be open to what He has to offer. In Ruth 3:11 we are told, “And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.”


When we are going through hard times, the easiest way to handle pain is to shutdown. What if instead we kept our hearts and ears open to the Lord for what is next? How does He want to use the moments of pain and vulnerability in your life, and turn them into something that is tremendously beautiful?

You can read all the June You and Your Girl series here.



  1. And many times part of that story is to be used in the body of Christ to impact and encourage other believers! Thank you for your encouragement to keep going even in the midst of pain!

  2. Abby Breuklander says:

    Thanks for sharing, I really needed this today!!

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