Have you ever noticed when you are at your best, some people make you feel like you’re the worst?
I think I finally cracked the code on this strange idea I once never understood.
Some people don’t like a secure girl.
I know that sounds really strong, maybe even cocky, but stick with me. I am talking about the girl who knows Who’s she is.
I have been running circles in my brain for the past week trying to think of what is the best way to write this post in order to get the point across as well as I can. I have realized some girls and also boys don’t always enjoy the company of a girl who is pouring out with confidence, radiating Jesus and secure with who she is. To some people, this can be intimidating and sometimes even frustrating. When people recognize those great traits in someone, you would think they would be attracted to them, right? A few do; finding those traits ravishing and beautiful. But many don’t…and this can leave a girl feeling insanely confused.
This situation never made sense to me. I will give you an example of this in my life.
Within the past year I have made a 180-degree turn from who I had been for the past three years of high school. I won’t go into too much detail, but let’s just say I have finally overcome the most painful obstacles in my life thus far. But I just couldn’t grasp the concept that the closer I grew to God, the further I seemed to grow from some people.
So, what do we try to do when we see some of the closest people in our life start to leave us out or drop us? We see it as our problem. We begin to wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”, “What is my problem?”, “How can I fix myself?”
When you can make the bold decision to not base your view of yourself on the opinions of others, you can grasp God’s opinion of you. This will allow you to see you are set apart. (Psalms 4:3)
Don’t let the world tell you that your most prized gifts of your personality, which are so beautiful, are the exact opposite. People want you to feel guilty for what they don’t understand. The Bible says, “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9 (KJV) See how God uses the word “peculiar” along side chosen, royal and holy? The view is all in the eye of the beholder.
We can’t continue to believe the lies that we hear poured into us: that we are the reason people walk away or because we stand out in a crowd that makes us the strange one. Who even has the right to call us “weird” in the first place? You aren’t weird; you’re set apart.
When you’re set apart, you will feel the world trying to pull at your security.
God calls beautiful what some may not understand; there are things everyday that all of us are still working on understanding. Sadly, some times when people see something great, instead of drawing closer and wondering how you obtained it, they get uncomfortable with the unknown and walk away. Don’t let that steal your joy of being secure and set free.
I encourage you this week, any time you think of sweet words you could say to someone, do not hold back! Everyone needs to hear those words of truth and joy. You may just so happen to turn their whole month around just by speaking a few words of life into them when everything else around seems so dead.
You can read all the June You and Your Girl series here.