From My Girl to Your Girl: Day #2 – You're Not Weird
Have you ever noticed when you are at your best, some people make you feel like you’re the worst?
I think I finally cracked the code on this strange idea I once never understood.
Some people don’t like a secure girl.
I know that sounds really strong, maybe even cocky, but stick with me. I am talking about the girl who knows Who’s she is.
I have been running circles in my brain for the past week trying to think of what is the best way to write this post in order to get the point across as well as I can. I have realized some girls and also boys don’t always enjoy the company of a girl who is pouring out with confidence, radiating Jesus and secure with who she is. To some people, this can be intimidating and sometimes even frustrating. When people recognize those great traits in someone, you would think they would be attracted to them, right? A few do; finding those traits ravishing and beautiful. But many don’t…and this can leave a girl feeling insanely confused.
This situation never made sense to me. I will give you an example of this in my life.
Within the past year I have made a 180-degree turn from who I had been for the past three years of high school. I won’t go into too much detail, but let’s just say I have finally overcome the most painful obstacles in my life thus far. But I just couldn’t grasp the concept that the closer I grew to God, the further I seemed to grow from some people.
So, what do we try to do when we see some of the closest people in our life start to leave us out or drop us? We see it as our problem. We begin to wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”, “What is my problem?”, “How can I fix myself?”
When you can make the bold decision to not base your view of yourself on the opinions of others, you can grasp God’s opinion of you. This will allow you to see you are set apart. (Psalms 4:3)
Don’t let the world tell you that your most prized gifts of your personality, which are so beautiful, are the exact opposite. People want you to feel guilty for what they don’t understand. The Bible says, “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9 (KJV) See how God uses the word “peculiar” along side chosen, royal and holy? The view is all in the eye of the beholder.
We can’t continue to believe the lies that we hear poured into us: that we are the reason people walk away or because we stand out in a crowd that makes us the strange one. Who even has the right to call us “weird” in the first place? You aren’t weird; you’re set apart.
When you’re set apart, you will feel the world trying to pull at your security.
God calls beautiful what some may not understand; there are things everyday that all of us are still working on understanding. Sadly, some times when people see something great, instead of drawing closer and wondering how you obtained it, they get uncomfortable with the unknown and walk away. Don’t let that steal your joy of being secure and set free.
I encourage you this week, any time you think of sweet words you could say to someone, do not hold back! Everyone needs to hear those words of truth and joy. You may just so happen to turn their whole month around just by speaking a few words of life into them when everything else around seems so dead.
You can read all the June You and Your Girl series here.
Good morning Madi and Lynn! Your posts have been wonderful. 🙂 My 16 year old daughter has been experiencing some mean girl attitudes because she is confident in God and she chose to do the right thing in a tough situation. Now she is being ignored and forgotten. It’s been hard. She has been through this more than once and just last week I told her we need to look at this from God’s perspective because there is a lesson to be learned. God is molding her through these struggles to prepare her for the future He has planned for her. It’s so exciting when God confirms what we’ve been thinking and He did that by using you Madi. Thank you!
Thank you, Karen, for sharing how these posts by Madi are helping!
Absolutely! Good for her for being a fighter, thank you for the sweet words!
Again Madi you hit it right on the head!! this is so important for teens (and adults) to grasp but NOT EASY!! I know.
Keep going Madi!! Looking forward to tomorrows post!!
Thanks so much, Julie!
I have been a long time follower of your blog and I really appreciate the posts your daughter is writing. My daughter has gone through some hard times with peers and this gives a different outlook. Just in the past week when I was praying I thought that God wanted us to look at her situation from a new perspective and to focus on His Way. God’s way is so much better than ours.
Thank you so much, Stephanie, for being a part of us women pouring God’s truth into His girls. I am so glad you are enjoying Madi’s posts. I’m loving hearing from her too!
Yes! So true! Thank you for taking the time to tell us how you feel 🙂
Hi, Oh, boy does it hurt when it hurts. You got my attention when you said, ‘I think I’ve finally cracked the code’ or something like that. Wow! that’s big. Long ago..long, long ago. I just plain didn’t fit. I didn’t fit with the right people at the right time…the ones I liked weren’t on the approval list of some in authority over me. Through counseling I learned to just be myself first….and see what happen. I was 12 years old when my counselor suggested this. It worked then, and it works now, although my solid rock is Jesus. Whenever I get that weird feeling like I don’t fit (and it still comes) I just go back to being myself.
Great advice, Linda!
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You just described my 18 year old daughter’s
experiences in high school. She has often felt what you described in both your posts. Though
there have been some shed tears she mostly trusted in God’s love for her. She just
graduated and has put the high school years behind her, victoriously!
She is looking forward to college and all that God has purposed for her life in this next
adventure. I forwarded your posts to both my girls who are away at a Christian camp centered on
equipping them to better defend their faith. I think it perfect timing as they are discussing theses
very things with their small groups at camp. Thank you, thank you!❤️
Thank you so much for sharing, Dawn! You’ve been a great mom. I hope your girls’ experience at camp is amazing!
That’s so awesome! High School can be a very hard and life changing time. Good for her for never giving up and coming out on top! So cool to hear 🙂
Hi, I brought the book for myself and daughter(14yrs) to read but didn’t start, and don’t think I should bother . Now she say she is a Lesbian and she only goes to church to see her friends. I believe she’s just following the crowd she calls friends. I am at a lost, I pray and cry. And husband doesn’t go to church either. Help
Hi Andrea, Friend don’t give up! God loves your girl and He can love your girl through you. She needs to see right now that love is not based on how she behaves or who she says she is. She is loved because she was made by a Creator who loved her and knew who she was and who she would be one day. Ask your daughter if she would spend some time with you. Do something fun. Get coffee. Get your nails done or go away overnight somewhere fun. Invest in her and love on her. Maybe the time to go through the book will come.