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I’ve Been Delilah
The Pointers Sisters sang in my head their throaty tune. Transported back to my parents’ car, my sister turns up the Top 40:
“Romeo and Juliet, Samson and Delilah.
Baby, you can bet, a love they couldn’t deny.”
I don’t know that at 11 years old I knew who Samson and Delilah were.
But today, as I read their romantic encounter, one line sticks out from their tale :
“She nagged him every day with this speech, pestering him until he was annoyed nearly to death.” Judges 16:16 (ISB)
Delilah wanted something. She whined. She manipulated, “How can you say, ‘I love you’…” She used all the tricks.
Eventually, her pestering and nagging worked. She got what she wanted.
I wondered how Delilah felt when she finally did get what she wanted. When the enemy captured Samson, gouged out his eyes, and threw him in prison.
Might she have thought, “That’s not what I wanted.”
Sometimes when we get what we thought we wanted we find we don’t want it.
Delilah got what she wanted … and it cost everything. Their marriage. Samson’s freedom. Eventually his life.
Delilah knew the power of a woman’s words. She knew if she just kept on, she would eventually get what she wanted.
She misused the power of influence God had given her.
I’ve been Delilah.
When my child asked to do something and I didn’t say “no”, but I made them feel guilty if they made a choice against my wishes.
When my husband already expressed his desire, but I pressed for mine.
I’ve been Delilah.
And when the fight with my child ends in tears or the meal with my husband is eaten in silence, like Delilah, I realize that what I’ve gotten I really didn’t want.
How about you?
Have you found yourself pressing for what you want? Take a moment. Think through when your emotions are spinning: Where will this pushing end?
A fight? Hurtful words? Debt? Resentment? Divorce? Estrangement?
We can learn a lot from our friend, Delilah. After the first push back we can take a moment and ask: If I keep pushing, where will I end up?
Because maybe what I want I really don’t want and I should just stop and realize this now.