Samson & Delilah
Today, we’ll learn a lesson from Samson; a lesson that can best be summoned up in a quote from Maya Angelou.
In Judges 16, Delilah showed Samson exactly who she was. A woman who couldn’t be trusted. A woman who didn’t have his best in her heart. She was the opposite of the woman described in Proverbs 31:11 , “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”
After Delilah had shown Samson her selfish self, Samson should have believed her; known that was the woman Delilah was. They say love is blind; I guess Samson was blind-sided.
Being a person who naturally looks for the best in others, a person who gives another many, many chances, this is a lesson I really need to pay attention to. When I really like someone, my heart will convince me to ignore the traits that don’t line up with God’s word. Excuse it. Call it immaturity or a mistake.
When I see a character flaw in another, I need to learn to not ignore it. Not that I don’t forgive when that character flaw results in an offense against me, but I do need to be wise. I need to recognize when a person’s weakness means proclivity toward an unhealthy relationship in the future.
I want to teach my girls to not ignore what shouldn’t be ignored. When you see someone being dishonest, pay attention. Dishonesty will ruin a relationship. If you spot a person choosing themselves over you over and over again, make a note. Selfish will effect your relationship. If you can’t trust her in the beginning of your friendship, chances are it’s not going to get better.
And “when someone shows you who they are; believe them the first time.” When your heart is consumed, your brain wants to ignore, but don’t. Keep your eyes open to what you see and your ears open to the direction of the Holy Spirit…no matter how cute he is!