Looking at the board in the locker room, Carrie was unable to believe she had failed to make the volley ball team for the second year in a row! She had tried so hard and she was the only one of her friends not to make it. She had worked out all summer, well, a little bit at least.
“God, why? I tried my harest, prayed, asked my mom and even some friends to pray. I even tweeted a verse on Twitter! Why did You let this happen again?”
There is nothing harder than rejection; nothing worse than feeling like we’ve failed. So if it hurts so bad, why does God let it happen?
My daughter, Mariah asked this same question when she didn’t make the basketball team in middle school. At nearly 5’11”, everyone said she’d make the team for sure! She thought so too! So after three grueling days of try outs, when the coach took her aside and told her the devastating news, she was completely shocked!
“Everybody including myself expected me to make the team,” says Mariah, now eighteen. “The worst thing is when people say things like ‘This is for the best’ but it really was true.”
Not making the basketball team caused Mariah to ask herself some tough questions. Was basketball her passion? If so, she needed to get busy and put some effort into some serious practicing. If not, what was?
Asking this question led Mariah to face it: basketball really wasn’t her thing. Truth is, it wasn’t her gift either. What she really loved was music.
Mariah took the rejection and turned it around. She began to reach toward the things she loved. She joined a prestigious choir that practiced at a higher level than most and traveled. She began voice lessons and piano too! She began to invest her time and effort into what she was gifted at.
So how did this new motivation turn out? Mariah traveled to Italy and even sang in the Vatican with her choir. She tried out for her school’s exclusive chamber choir normally reserved for juniors and seniors, becoming the only sophomore to make the group. She followed her passion which led her to find her niche.
Maybe your child is pursuing a sport or activity because it is her friend’s passion. This summer might be just the time to help her investigate new hobbies and find the one that fits her personal strengths and talents. This could even open a door for the two of you to some time together working out, making pottery, trying concerts with a new sound. Help her to allow the rejection of not succeeding in one area, to open the door of acceptance in another.
Side note: last night was Mariah’s last high school concert and it was amazing! Normally her performances are all classical pieces, but last night she did a little ditty with some friends. I thought I would share it with you!