“What you see, more’s to be”. Those are the wise words my husband often passes on to my kids.
We’ve entered the possible “dating zone”, but even before that, Greg looked for examples to share this truth:whatever you see in the guy or girl you are interested in, you can count on seeing more of it in the future.
When the intoxication of infatuation comes around, Greg doesn’t want our kids to shut their eyes to obvious flaws and say, “he’ll change.”
While it is true that people change, especially those who are sincerely following Christ, as a general rule the character you see is the same character that will continue.
Look for easy examples to share with your kids:
Does he: come to the door to pick you up, open your car door or allow you to go first into a building? The manners he shows in the beginning are usually the best manners you’ll see.
Does he have a job, get good grades or give his best to his sport? The work ethic you see today will be the work ethic that will shine tomorrow…good or bad.
How does he treat his parents; especially his mom? The respect he has for her will be the respect he has for you.
This isn’t just for our girls. The same is true for our son. Does the girl you are dating allow you to lead or feel the need to?
While we don’t want our kids to over analyze every move a potential date has, we do want them to go into a potential relationship with their eyes open and not be blinded by a starry eyed crush.
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